Wooooo! We are so back!

And so energy inefficient.

Exactly. It’s an energy conservation measure

Cool! Still not gonna put all my eggs in the fascist-sympathetic basket

Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition, to wit:

There must be in-groups whom the law protectes but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.

If you haven’t read “A Libertarian Walks Into a Bear”, I highly recommend it

From an objective outside perspective, you’re right. I need to take care of my own happiness, and my wife has a right to leave a relationship that doesn’t meet her needs. I suppose I need to just keep transitioning at my pace and keep communication with my wife open about how we’re both feeling. I just hope that we can find a way for me to be myself and still have a happy relationship. It’s just hard to imagine losing so close to me that I’ve been with for so long. If there’s anyone I would sacrifice my transition for, it’s her, but I also understand that not being true to myself would be doing her a disservice

Thank you 💜 it sounds like you have a wonderful partner! I hope that my wife and I can have the same experience. She really is incredible and my best friend. It’s hard for me to accept right now that I might have to be okay with separating if she just isn’t attracted to femme-me, but you’re right, if there are needs she has that I can’t meet, I can’t deny her that. I hope, though, that no matter what happens, we can stay in each others’ lives in a big way.

Thank you 💜 I fortunately have a great individual therapist who does have experience working with other trans and queer clients, but I think you’re right, that a trans-affirming couples therapist is probably a good idea. I know the local LGBTQ resource center has some recommendations, l’ll have to check it out.

I also think you’re right that I shouldn’t prejudge anything. It’s obviously been a tumultuous few months, and I probably need to be more patient with my wife coming to terms with everything. Like I mentioned, she’s autistic, so even smaller changes can be hard for her. It’s just difficult for me, because I really want that reassurance that our relationship will survive (or hopefully thrive), and even if we do get to that place, it’s going to take some time.

Well, there are many reasons someone could come to dislike cops, but their legacy and ongoing patterns of brutality and racial discrimination both come to mind.

The solutions look a lot different for the real loneliness epidemic than a “male loneliness epidemic”. You fix the first by creating more walkable cities, more third places you can be without needing to spend money, and giving people the time and money they need to go out, do things, and socialize.

The proposed solutions for the “male loneliness epidemic” seem to be a lot more like shitty men saying “women need to lower their standards and be okay with being my therapist/mom/girlfriend, while I change nothing about myself”

Littering, especially cigarette butts. Nothing sends me into a blind rage faster than seeing someone flick a cigarette butt out their car window. Not littering is SO easy, the bar is on the floor, and yet so many people just don’t care at all.

I’m glad that’s worked well for you! For the overwhelming majority, keeping their money in the 401k and continuing to make regular contributions, regardless of market volatility, is the wisest course of action.

What makeup tricks work to do that, if you don’t mind me asking?

Fuck off, transphobe

Kept me waiting long enough that I’m no longer a Proton user. Selfhosted Nextcloud goes weeeeeeeeee

Gotcha, thank you so much! I’ll talk with my doctor the next time I see her about finasteride and minoxidil and see what she thinks

Thank you! Do you think minoxidil is effective enough that I should think about taking until I can start HRT?

I do! I volunteer at a dairy goat CSA, and I’ve learned how to make my own chèvre at home

I recently read (listened to) The Will to Change by bell hooks and Whipping Girl by Julia Serano, and I found them both pretty good