notamember [he/him, he/him]

Well first you apply for unemployment benefits. Then, enjoy a day or two of freedom. Let loose, fuck it all.

Then you make a plan. Did you get any severance payout? Do you have an emergency savings fund? How long will it last you? Form a budget and a timeline. What is your backup plan if that time runs out? Can gig work fill the gap or extend that line?

Then you apply for jobs like your life depends on it. Leverage your professional connections you’ve made along the way.

These are all rhetorical questions for yourself to figure out the next steps. But eventually it will end, and you’ll be an employed drone again.

Layoffs happen. Don’t take it personally, because it will be no help now anyway. What’s important is the future and getting a new job.

ITT: people who unironically and uncritically genuinely think A Modest Proposal was a call to eat babies

1. Save every single admission and piece of evidence she gives you
2. Start taking contemporaneous notes. Today.
3. Change every password you have, including your phone pin and computer password.
4. Do you live together? Come daylight, book a consultation with a lawyer on how to kick her out of your house legally. I sure hope the place wasn’t in her name.
5. They fucked in that dingy-ass hotel room and you need to accept that it is over
6. One day this will all be over and you will be in a better place mentally and physically. Don’t give up.

TL note: this is considered a grave social faux pas in Japanese culture