Well that’s the end of my little break :(
Good swim, no meltdowns, no “what’s for dinner”, good sleeps, good comet, no locking of horns…
Only spoke to a dog at the dog beach and the magpie. Bliss.
:-)
@PeelerSheila@aussie.zone when is your birthday because I’d like to wish you a very happy birthday and hope all your wishes come true. You are an inspiration 🎂 ❤️
We ❤️ you, Peeler!
Happy birthday Peeler! 🎂
Happy birthday from me, too! 🎂🥳
It’s the 16th 🙂 And thankyou for your kind words
I have been mildly stoned daily this week and have been very productive (home related things). Still managing to chill and nap regularly.
Great week off.
Actually living the dream.
If this is what retirement is, I’m ready.
My front security camera had a short story to tell me today. A small dog came to visit, trotting up the driveway and trying the front door and side gate. A bit of wandering around, looking like it expected someone to let it in. Then a person showed up, there were happy greetings and the dog was picked up and carried away. Poor dog, all the houses around here look the same!
the irises have started blooming, the colour is intense
ooh they’re out!
Beautiful. I was just wondering yesterday if they were blooming yet!
:) not frilly but the colour is so deep
I was reading they are one of the few flowers that come in all three colours, reds, yellows and blue/purple
What a gorgeous colour! 💜
Beautiful! Mine started blooming out the back and exMIL decided to chop them and put them in a vase in her living room ☹️
Edit: she knows not to, I’ve told her off before.
Didn’t really feel like a swim after work but dragged my ass there and of course felt 1000x better after some laps. Being in water is healing, even when it’s chemicaled up the wazoo.
I will definitely be going to the beach tomorrow
maybe one of these I will even go in the water
I used FB for my buildings FB group, and insta for memes, but it gives me the heebies when it recommends “friends” from highschool. Like, no thank you, they were all bullies. It gives me schadenfreude though when I check their profiles and the girl bullies are all stuck in a pyramid scheme though 😂
Go karting was funnn. We had enough for two groups, after the first set of races we got split into the fast group and the slow group. I was the slowest qualifier for the fast group 😎 and then I came sixth of eight in the finals which was the fasties
Did they breath test you before hand?
I came last in the race we did, my friend said “thank you for sticking to the left. It made going around you easy”.
Yes they did breath test us! These karts were no joke. 55kmh 🫣.
Now I can beer though. Cheers 🍺🍻🍺Le Mans by any chance?
They were absolutely no joke either haha way too fast for my liking.
No idea. Not a car guy at all
My elbows hurt for a week afterwards. I have shitty elbows though.
Lots of complaints about sore wrists but I was okay, let’s see how I pull up tomorrow
Friend who is a big procrastinator and only started her assignment today keeps messaging me to tell me how frustrated she is because her code didn’t work or something and she wants to kill herself. Fucking yikes.
I procrastinate like that too but I keep those thoughts as inside ones.
FWIW, they really sound like a programmer.
🤠
Talk like that concerns me. I don’t find it funny, tell her to not ever say anything like that in jest
and if she is being manipulative I would cut her as a friend.
What does she want from you?
If she doesn’t overtly ask for something what do you think she trying to manipulate you into doing?
She wants someone to comfort her in her distress. I told her that a psych appointment takes five minutes to book, she can see one through Zoom, it’s FREE through her uni, and she won’t get one straight away, so the don’t have time is an excuse.
encouragement is what she needs, not comfort
“You can do it!”
Done :))
Yikes. Sounds like girl needs to join a coding forum or something for the technical help, address her pacing struggles with the teacher, and not say such things to you even as a joke.
Edit: She needs help if she’s actually serious and it’s not hyperbole or even if she’s genuinely just overwhelmed. Friends can help of course and I’m sympathetic but I feel like without boundaries and proper supports in place this lady could bring you down with her
Yep. She said she doesn’t have time to see a psych, even though her uni offers them for free and it only takes an hour. She’s used AI to code most things these days, saying that it’s the processes that she needs to know, not the actual code itself…
Yeah… You seem like a good friend but please take care of yourself here and watch out. Don’t be the only friend she goes to and maybe distance yourself a bit.
Sorry if this is unwanted advice. It’s just in my twenties I had friends who were chaotic and insisted on using me as the go to while refusing to let me link them with more appropriate supports (or help them in practical actions to fix a problem), and I burned out so hard I had to drop them. Then I was the one not coping.
Assuming she’s able bodied and not incapacitated by her mental health your friend has choices here.
Even if they’re not something she wants to do, such as deferring for a while, withdrawing/failing and retaking the course, changing courses, or withdrawing/failing and going into work instead. I’m not sure how everything works now but she has options.
If she’s both physically disabled and her mental health is unmanaged/unmanageable she might actually be fucked but also you have the right to maintain boundaries and your own wellbeing.
Thanks Melba. I have linked her to appropriate supports and been encouraging. A voice of reason and self-compassion if you will. Now I will be disengaging to work on my own assignment due soon.
She said she doesn’t have time to see a psych,
she’s a drama queen
Absolutely
If you don’t have a lot of choices due to the service being subsidised some providers can be terrible. There’s also a shortage plus high demand.
But a lot of them do Zoom now. I think she just doesn’t want to. It’s easier to demand informal supports from a friend to just vent
Edit: Obligatory warning against using Better Help though
She is a student and has access to counselling and psychology through her uni. I sent her all the links. I think it’s all a mental thing for her, like it is for me.
Yeah, I completely understand the mental barrier thing. But it is something she has to do herself. You’re doing what you can
What are we doing today Skip?
Taking over the world! Oh wait…
Spending the day on the couch with a wheat bag and chocolate.
I’ve got my wheatbag in the microwave as well speak.
I’m going go karting after work with work social club
I love how your work has a social club
It’s pretty cool, so far I’ve gone to a wine tasting, comedy festival night, ummm some other things. Have missed a fair few things. I pay $5 per fortnight and every activity is heavily subsidised
That’s so good! Every company should have something like it.
Lego & vacuuming
We have a wedding to attend 😃
Practising for open mic night soon.
Sleeping because the roadworks etc
Maybe some video games but probs just more music stuff.
Maybe a night out if band rehearsal isn’t tonight.
Work
Finishing an assignment hopefully on time
Maybe watching an episode of something if I finish the assignment before the deadline.
Cheers everyone and 'ave a good weekend 🍺
Update on my experiment. I definitely feel better than before. My head, nose, ears, throat feel a bit clearer. Possibly just masking symptoms but atleast I can breathe a bit better. I need more Guinea pigs if anyone is game.
Ibuprofen is antiinflamatory, hayfrever is partially inflammation.
True. I didn’t expect it to work as well as it has. I walked out to the letterbox and came back. No sneezing. I was very surprised. It’s like a booster.
Cheeeeeeers!
Cheers 🍺
I’ve been silently informed that just because I’ve come back from band rehearsal, doesn’t mean I get to disrupt her quiet time by singing.
Goodnight all ❤️
Good night.
New Tame Impala album dropped. Still listening, but he’s gone down a different direction from all his other stuff.
I did not like the pre-release singles I heard, but I am going to dive in anyway and hope for the best. Currents is one of my favourite albums ever, what happened?!
Agreed. Dracula sounds like it should have been a Dula Peepa track. Also that line about watching Family Guy?
I’m listening to the album right now, and so far I’m not really meshing with it. I miss his signature guitars and drums too. I feel like his older music was more ‘eventful’ if you catch my drift. E.g. the different parts of Let It Happen.
I predict Afterthought will be the commercial success from the album. Very much a dance track.
I don’t dislike the album as much as the new Taylor Swift one though!
Do let me know what you think of the rest of the album when you listen to it :)
I have listened through a few times - also don’t mind Afterthought, the first song isn’t bad, and End of Summer has grown on me. But that’s all the positive I have to say. It’s just blah, what I love about Tame is the psych elements in the music and the catchy bass lines and melodies, and that’s all but gone here and replaced with nothing interesting. Super disappointed.
Yep :( End of Summer has grown on me too, but I can’t help hearing “I can feel it in my balls” in the chorus.
Question of the day: What’s something good that happened to you this week?
The other day the man and I had been out and about and when we got back home I said “You’ve either got a stone or nail in your tyre because i can hear click click click”. I got out and had a look and yep there was a small screw in there. I felt like a hero because any more travelling and he would’ve been changing a tyre at 5am on the highway.
The derelict van belonging to the squatters in the local (derelict) milk bar got towed by the council. No more of their 3 flea-stricken mongrels wandering in and out of everyone’s front yards. Yes those dogs were definitely NOT being looked after properly - all were entire males and challenged every other dog in the street and people too. Sometimes very loudly. They chased small children from the local school coming home, were fed mostly on KFC and were disobedient to their ‘owners’. And the squatters’ non-registered land cruiser got towed as well. I think everyone in the street rejoiced at the sudden increase in parking and now can walk their dogs without fear of large vet bills. And let their children come home after school unaccompanied. Which I think is healthy. There’s far too much helicopter parenting nowadays. While I understand there’s a housing crisis, and mental health (and drug) issues make it hard to find a cheap rental, keeping 3 hungry, disobedient dogs in a derelict van only a couple of blocks from a primary school is just plain bad pet parenting. I’m very glad indeed that there were no tragedies.
Definitely a win. There’s so much wrong with this. Shit.
Hasn’t been fun dealing with it. Fortunately my “I’m no one to mess with” mojo hadn’t deserted me, so the dogs mostly stayed out of my yard. Lots of us here in the street were walking on eggs with regard to those dogs. We are SO GLAD they’re gone. I don’t think anyone got bitten, but imo it was only a matter of time.
I never narc on squatters but these guys were arseholes. I’m glad things are safer now. With the dogs free roaming they could have bitten a kid.
Was at the shops with my wife and and saw an elderly couple struggling with their trolley.
Took the trolley to their car, wife chatted with them. I loaded the groceries and they couldn’t stop thanking us.
Was hoping to get in their will, but alas a thank you was enough.
That’s so sweet. My husband is like that. Helps anyone who’s struggling. That’s why I love him.
Just because I hate people in general doesn’t mean I ain’t gonna help them.
At the same time I’ll tell off a pensioner if they try cutting in line. Queueing is sacred regardless of age.
My mate bought his dog to the pub just now. Puppy time
Puppy alert! What kinda puppy?
Jack Russel at the pub today and a gooodle at work
I’ve reduced my internet time and pivoted my interactions a bit more to some nicer people. It’s early days and I feel like I should keep my internet usage minimal (plus one or two are still friends with the mean people - a bit worried they might follow me even though I left) but it’s a start. Not everyone is going to automatically hate you.
I finally managed to get the vets to prescribe the antibiotics. I missed picking them up today (doh) but can tomorrow.
I’ve decided to accept a little help around the home sometimes, from maybe one person I trust.
Some back physio has really improved my life.
I love that for you. Can you share what you’re doing to improve that?
I am walking faster ( not fast, just fast enough to bring different muscles into play ) and swinging my arms a very little.
Definitely the job. I’m not designed to have so much spare time. I find that I use my free time much more effectively when there is a hard limit.
That’s definitely a good thing. Well done. 👏
Wow that’s lucky!
I think I already commented it a few days ago, but people at uni asking me to paint with them! Also have received a bunch of compliments this week, which may or may not have boosted my ego 😊
Yes I did! So jealous! It’s the small things that give you that boost to punch the air and continue! 🥰
Nothing in particular but it’s just been a good week. I’ve been eating less animal based food. I’ve reconnected with a bunch of old friends. I’ve lost some more weight. My knee hurts which blows because I’ve been really enjoying doing more exercise. Spring, it’s not kick-in-the-dick cold all the time. I’ve started doing an NDIS course to try and retrain my myo degree into something more useful to me. I seem to have a bunch more money than I thought. I normally don’t pay much attention because I live so frugally and it’s been stacking in the background. Not life changing money more like an extra grand for booze and toys - like the Ninja Creami, I’m having a tub of low-cal sorbet most days now - which is odd because I’m probably frugal to a fault so splashing out feels weird.
Not me, but on my way home I told a guy in the tram that his boots were the coolest thing I’ve seen all week (they were, pointed leather cowboy boots with red all over them, very baller). I like to think that is one thing that sticks with him as a highlight of his week!
I managed to get a “I feel like a proud dad” comment out of my boss when I pulled off a joke on him.
I’ve had a lovely afternoon in the sun, planting some of my tubestock and listening to the kids next door having a great time playing outside with their parents. There is something very uplifting about hearing children play.
I’m a bit behind on where I would like to be with the planting - digging out the grass is tough work - but I am progressing steadily. I do have all the herbs planted now and the larger natives, it’s mostly the smaller ones and ground covers to go. It is nice being able to go outside and see actual plants.
Nice! I especially love that you have dwarf lemons. (I had to go back to remind myself what plants you had.) They’ll be good for fish, lemon drinks, and maybe some jars of lemon butter.
My favourite variety is Meyer lemons
