• threeshortwords@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    You may want more validation and that’s fine. But nobody owes it to you.

    To repeat the exact point of your comment, you don’t know that the person you’re responding to actually thinks this or deserves this characterization. It is extremely uncharitable.

    To make my own uncharitable characterization, It sounds a lot like bullying someone with therapy speak for stepping out of line.

    assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.

    And yet not a single response can be seen in this vein on comment after comment from the clear majority repeating over and over that the woman is protecting herself from bodily harm by speaking this way. Nobody seems to be telling them that they’re making assumptions. Only this guy gets this response.

    In conclusion, as naive and simple as it sounds, let’s just be fucking nice to each other. Even to those you imagine deserve no respect or ‘special treatment’ (which is usually code for respect).

    Internalizing that last bit is something I really wish more worked very hard to do. And it is very hard. I’m probably screwing it up here. But I’m trying. For what that’s worth.

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      To repeat the exact point of your comment, you don’t know that the person you’re responding to actually thinks this or deserves this characterization.

      Which is why I said “you may”. I didn’t claim that he does. But if he does, it’s okay to do so. However, most people appreciate some kind of validation. You seem to think that entertaining this characterization is “uncharitable”. This wasn’t my intention, quite the opposite.

      And yet not a single response can be seen in this vein on comment after comment from the clear majority repeating over and over that the woman is protecting herself from bodily harm by speaking this way. Nobody seems to be telling them that they’re making assumptions. Only this guy gets this response.

      Why didn’t you either?

      In conclusion, as naive and simple as it sounds, let’s just be fucking nice to each other. Even to those you imagine deserve no respect or ‘special treatment’ (which is usually code for respect).

      Internalizing that last bit is something I really wish more worked very hard to do. And it is very hard. I’m probably screwing it up here. But I’m trying. For what that’s worth.

      Thank you, I can tell you’re trying.