• gmtom@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    Yeah even in completely mutual open relationships this is typically what happens.

    And it doesn’t help that I’m bad at talking to women. My girlfriend ended up setting me up with more people than I found myself.

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      4 days ago

      Either you interpret “completely mutual” differently from me or you’re wrong. When people go into it with open communication and really ask themselves what would happen if their partner acted like them but was more successful, this doesn’t happen.

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        4 days ago

        ???

        I don’t understand what you’re trying to say?

        I was just saying even when it’s mutual women get more interest than men.

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          4 days ago

          I see, I meant the part where the dude gets flustered about that fact and problems arise.

          It’s often a part of these stories and I never get how a couple with communication skills that bad expects a different outcome.

          Yet all poly people I know just … do their thing and are happy.