God, I dated a girl like this. We were like best friends, started dating and would argue with me any time I gave her a compliment or told her how I felt about her. Sad. I really did love her. She just didn’t feel like she deserved to be loved.
“How I feel about you has nothing to do with how you feel about yourself.”
My girl was like that, but consistency goes a long way!
She still sometimes thinks of herself as ugly and undeserving (she’s a fuckin’ goddess, wtf), but she accepted that she is genuinely and passionately loved.
Still weirds her out, though.
Women have some serious shit doled out at them about standards of beauty. I remember one girlfriend I had was very conscious about her skin not being perfect. She was a beautiful woman, great personality, a lot of fun - but was nervous because her skin wasn’t perfect. (We split because I had to move away to start my career, and she wanted kids, while I didn’t - so there wasn’t much point in continuing a long distance relationship.)
Yeah same. It’s been 7 years and she still doubts sometimes.
As someone who has never been on a date but has watched a lot of romcom anime: a recurring theme that I see in them is about how you can’t be in love with someone if you don’t also love yourself. If you don’t believe you are worthy to be with another person, how can you ever accept their feelings even if they do come out and say it?
I’m not really going anywhere with this. It’s just something I’ve noticed.
Should be him bringing her since she’s the one in need of adjustment
yeh, imposter syndrome
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