• Rolando@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Here’s the alternative:

    • Justice of the Peace ceremony: $43 (including license, supply your own witnesses)
    • session at photography studio: $13-$500 (including prints and downloads)
    • BYOB party at your place that evening: $0

    Basically, finding out your partner wants a big wedding is a huge go/no-go moment. Save the money for when you really need it.

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      9 months ago

      My wife and I were planning our wedding a year from then when I got a job offer to the US and we had to get married in a hurry to avoid some issues with the visas.

      Best decision ever, we had a small party at my SIL patio, my parents got us tacos catering, a friend of my wife who has won some iPod battles was or “DJ” and we got some cheap wines at costco and told people to BYOB

      We only had to rent some chairs and tables but it wasn’t very expensive

      We were planning to celebrate our 1st anniversary doing a “wedding” party but we decided to use the money to travel 3 weeks to Japan instead

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        9 months ago

        Photoshoot’s free. The $13 is for the print you get.

        You mock, but my grandparents only have a couple photos of the day they were married. But they did stick together all their lives, and they did raise their kids as best they could within their means.

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          9 months ago

          There was a study a few years ago that showed that people who spend less on wedding have a lower chance of divorce.

          On the other hand not going for a honeymoon increase divorce rate.

          So better save money on the wedding and spend it on a honeymoon.

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          9 months ago

          I didn’t realize you were referencing something from like 50-60 years ago. All in all, you make valid points… I have lived long enough to personally validate them. It was just the “thirteen to five hundred dollars” range that made me chuckle!

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      9 months ago

      As my sister in law said, even for expensive weddings, if you do things properly you’ll end up making profit from the gifts you receive.

      And yes, that’s fucking disgusting.

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      9 months ago

      My mama’s got a tiny little diamond in her engagement ring. Dad offered to get her a bigger one, but she said no, let’s save that money for something more important. I believe that money got put toward a renovation of the house.

      Give me a girl like mama, whose got a tiny diamond and a solid home.