I don’t think you understood what I’m saying.
My gripe/problem/feud/issue is about people who are miserable in their marriage but they will always be there to sell their shitty marriage like it’s a golden ticket out of anything and everything If you follow their shitty steps.
If you have a happy marriage (not you personally) I salute you and your partner and I have nothing to say.
I’m mature enough to know that anything and everything that involves 2 people in any amount of time would have some difficulties.
But that doesn’t change the fact that people whom are trying to sell you on marriage 99% of the time are the ones that have shitty marriages.
I think you’ve understood marriage correctly, that’s basically how I think of it. It would make sense to be praised for staying in a relationship for years without having legal strings discouraging you from leaving it. Yet no one ever does that. If anyone says anything to you about being in that situation it is indeed “so when are you getting married” like what you’re doing is wrong or not enough.
Same as people who got married and miserable always asking you when you’re going to get married.
Imho marriage is two things:
I agree that marriage has some inherent flaws being based on the bourgeois concept of the nuclear family.
I would be elated to have a similar recognition for non monogamous and/or aromantic relationships. alas one can only dream :c
There also are some laws that cover de facto relationships but they’re still very lackluster and still based on the nuclear family.
I used to be very against marriage but I’ve seen some great ones recently that were just that: awesome celebrations of important relationships.
Marriage is incredibly flawed. I would still like to think that it’s redeemable.
I don’t think you understood what I’m saying. My gripe/problem/feud/issue is about people who are miserable in their marriage but they will always be there to sell their shitty marriage like it’s a golden ticket out of anything and everything If you follow their shitty steps.
If you have a happy marriage (not you personally) I salute you and your partner and I have nothing to say.
I’m mature enough to know that anything and everything that involves 2 people in any amount of time would have some difficulties.
But that doesn’t change the fact that people whom are trying to sell you on marriage 99% of the time are the ones that have shitty marriages.
I think you’ve understood marriage correctly, that’s basically how I think of it. It would make sense to be praised for staying in a relationship for years without having legal strings discouraging you from leaving it. Yet no one ever does that. If anyone says anything to you about being in that situation it is indeed “so when are you getting married” like what you’re doing is wrong or not enough.