• sunflowercowboy@feddit.org
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    2 days ago

    He’s at work, be professional at least. He also doesn’t know the person, but if he was just some random dude you are still inconveniencing a person slightly. They say no, you are inconvenienced back.

    Your workplace is for work, not for interfering with people trying to use your service. You can become friends with regulars and then ask them out if you desire, but you also involve more of yourself at risk in the question.

    So just don’t. Go to public gatherings or places of interest, where people have a common understanding of at least socializing. Having a friend already diffuses the situation or possible tension that an engagement can form.

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      Here’s the thing, work takes up like half your day. If you aren’t allowed to be a normal human at work, you’re going to be a miserable person. That being said, a normal person doesn’t ask for a phone number after a few sentences. They at a minimum have a conversation long enough to establish that having a second conversation would actually be an enjoyable experience. That’s probably not gonna happen at a TSA checkpoint and that’s fine.

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        You can become friends with regulars and then ask them out if you desire, but you also involve more of yourself at risk in the question.

        Compliment people, be normal, do it without further engagement. That is the issue, men tend not to speak up unless interested so you are easy to read. Women like surprises, it’s not shooting your shot if they already saw your gun.

        Learn to appreciate the beauty of all before thinking of capturing one. You will have to communicate with them. Compliment something unique, something deliberately done, and something genuinely appreciated. By them or by you.

        Just speak up truely.