• HelixDab2@lemm.ee
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    10 days ago

    I’m not sure how many men are able to realize when something they’re saying, or something a friend is saying, is making women uncomfortable. I think that takes a certain level of self-awareness that a lot of men lack.

    I know that I do. But I’m also autistic, so reading social cues isn’t my strong suite.

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    I remember having that moment! Not with the gorilla but my friend treated women poorly, nothing physically abusive or nothing but he cheated on many of them.

    I then told my friend, “yeah, but he’s still a good guy”. I mean, he was to me … and if you’re not in a relationship with him he’s fun? :P

    I kinda stopped staying friends with these guys. They’re toxic to be around.

    I even had a friend that told me he was abusive to his girlfriends and I’m like, dude I really think you wanna be the man your daugthers look up to. But he kept it going and I couldn’t chill with him any more.

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    10 days ago

    Uh oh, you posted feminist leaning content on Lemmy. Better brace yourself for a sea of dudes telling you that you are wrong!

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      That’s not really my experience with lemmy, it seems we’re all leftists (I’ve seen some non leftists, rarely) albeit a very diverse blend

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        There were a lot of men with hurt feelings during the “Would you rather be with a man or a bear alone in the woods?” hypothetical fad.

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          I must say that I did not pay attention to that particular conversation here, so I might have missed some of it. Also I’m mostly on very much leftist instances & anti-feminist sentiment would not be tolerated

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    I did that once! It was scary, and I lost a “friend”, but it was worth it

    That being said, I’d never even try to fight a gorilla. If they picked a fight, I’d just resign myself to my fate

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      I’ve conditionally gamed my anxiety by making myself anxious about staying silent in certain situations.

      It works, for the small, small price of greatly increased social stress!

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    Either i don’t have any friends like that or they know not to expose that side to me.

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    I haven’t had a friend tell me this, but I have definitely had those “d’oh!!” moments of sudden realization like clarity Clarence, where I think back to things I’ve said or done and how they were likely construed as by the other party and all I can feel is embarrassment. But it has helped me catch myself whenever I’m about to repeat these kinds of mistakes.

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    Throw a banana, then hop on his head 3 times. Boom done.

    Treating a woman like shit? The ultimate “Beta” move.

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      Yes. Though I’m not friends with anyone who would intentionally make women uncomfortable.