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  • Yeah! great read if you have the time. It can be used to explain alot of things since its a very open take on going from a state of ignorance or naivety to “seeing the light”. I think its an important read, since people still in the “cave” are hard if not impossible to “convince” with such a limited perspective on reality.

    I further interpret this to mean If we want to pull our fellow man out of the cave, we have to help change their perspective and meet them where they are in their journey out.


  • As someone who is likely on the spectrum, they can tell you are… off, in some way. I think we trigger some sort of anti-sociopath response in people that just makes everyone who doesnt take the time to know you, just feel uneasy. Coupled with the fact that we are anti-social. Theyre going to get the feeling like you intend harm, emotionally or physically.

    People have litterally told me, “I thought you hated me” or “youre allright, I thought you were an asshole”. The reality is I do not want to be here and Id rather be anywhere else. Coworkers try to “break up the routine” and have a chat. But when my schedule is thrown off, i go home later, I eat later, I have less me time, I sleep less, and I blame them.

    All that being said, Ive come to realize that being “in tune” with coworkers IS part of any job. You dont have to like them, but smiling at them, holding doors, offering help, making jokes, and being generally upbeat improves overall efficiency. It takes no time at all, and It will keep people from feeling like they need to "confront"you to get a feel for who you are. Its stupid but its how they feel “safe”.

    If youre busy, politely dismiss conversations and move on. If you cant thats on you, If they get upset/pushy its on them. For being more friendly, I find that watching TV shows about social groups and structure helps alot. Personal favorites include “The Good Place”, “Community”, “Star Trek”, “Golden Girls”. I cant think of more off the top, but maybe lemmy can help add some that resonate with you.





  • LoreSoong@startrek.websitetoPrivacy@lemmy.mlI give up 🏳️
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    Any place asking me to scan a QR for a menu, or need an app for parking probably wasnt worth it to begin with. Yes practicing privacy is not going to “feel” good thats exactly what they want. Just keep fighting back where you can, Make it as unlikely as possible for them to get what they want.

    Every person In this comment section has leaks in their system. Unless they are some data security expert, theres simply no way to get by without being “exposed” at some point.

    Keep up the good fight. Its worth it. Your eyes and your data are the new currency. Keep their hands off it.

    Edit: there is alot of good info in this comment section people should upvote & downvote this post to balance it into being “contraversial” to get more eyes on it. Simply downvoting someone with a “bad take” Is imo unproductive.


  • This reminds me of growing up with my older and younger sibiling, when my younger sib started swearing they had to get a feel for when It was necessary. Me and the older would just look at them with an eyebrow up when theyd swear in situations that did not call for it.

    I feel like when someone cant talk without using swears and they are just filler words. censor them why not? Ive seen southpark and metalocolypse referenced and those are good examples of what i mean. If the swears arent necessary to convey the message then they were useless to begin with, and as you said we allready pretty much know what they were from context, I find this pretty funny aswell since it chops up what they are trying to say.

    I feel the same way here on lemmy or on youtube etc. If youre a person who swears alot and it has “lost all meaning” just censor it to reach a wider audience. Some people just dont want to hear/read that type of vulgarity and it might even be an issue if there are children in the room or over their shoulder.






  • LoreSoong@startrek.websitetomemes@lemmy.worldDead reddit theory
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    I feel that i fully aknowlaged the selfishness of my actions in terms of the value I bring to society. I simply disagree with the idea that this is for everyone. There have always been outliers or introverts, and they will and have provided value where they can, even If, like you said, its not actually productive to the average experience of the everyday person(like your farm example). Even so I do believe people can do great things from the relative Isolation of their peers. A book for example could radicalize millions.

    I will admit that resisting opression by communicating thoughts and ideas with others is paramount, and me and others like me are possibly doing a disservice to the rest of our communities by not being present. But as long as the “isolation” is not a coping mechanism, I don’t see an issue. Sure interaction like this is surface level but to say its unhealthy… Ill agree that too much of this Is unhealthy, but that applies to almost everything. With anything that effects your brain, its all about your relationship with that substace or action not just the substance or action itself.

    To me, its as if you view introversion as a mental illness rather than a personality type or lifestyle. Please correct me if im wrong.


  • Im glad thats working for you and I hope that someone reads this and gets value out of it. but no offense I think we just live entirely different lifestyles and value different things.

    I will agree that your lifestyle is definitely healthier for the community at large, and politically speaking your local area is healthier having you and others socializing about or engaging with current events.

    I think outliers like myself must exist in some way. While nothing I produce currently is on the same level as lets say an artist or musician. Someday I will write, program, or even just share something ive made that gives me the value and purpose I seek.

    Selfish? probably, but I am constantly learning about new things and perspectives. Lemmy just happens to be a highway into other peoples minds that I very much enjoy. I did not mean to imply that I desire the same level of social belonging that others have. Ive got my family, animals, significant other, all of my remaining energy belongs to them.

    Heck maybe im an asshole and youre about to slap me with a truth bomb, and thats why im here.



  • I think it really boils down to the owners of the servers doing the right thing. I mean that in terms of properly organizing the important information on their server and archiving it elsewhere simulateously.

    Otherwise yeah I agree its just a furnace In which data is being shoveled into, Rather than a single event as I implied.

    Again, someone knowlegable please tell me we are wrong, and a solution exists, or is in development.


  • I wonder if discord shuts down due to lets say its predator problem, will this be a library of alexandria type event? Obviously wed attempt to grab as much as we can before the “library” burns down, but how? To my understanding every server owner would have to install a bot to grab all of that data themselves.

    Someone please tell me im wrong and why because I hate this.


  • True, Generally I meet people though hyper-specific hobbies like fighting games or MTG. All of which have a pretty sizable upfront cost to enjoy. Not to mention the events are usually at a store, restaraunt, venue etc. All of which costs money. Im finding it harder and harder to justify financially and I cant imagine its much better for anyone else.



  • Same! Boost Is definitely the best ive found. Even the free version is incredible the ads only apear in a tiny box at the bottom in the comments section. Super unintrusive, I supported Immediately after testing out other options and landing back on boost.

    I just wish they could somehow implement saving posts and going back through upvoted content similar to how it worked on reddit, but i understand that there are probably technical limitations and less financial insentive.