from a song

It was supposed to be my birth name, actually. The entire time my mom was pregnant, I absolutely refused to take my hands off my genitals for ultrasounds or I just kept turning, so they had no fucking clue what I was gonna be. They assumed a girl based off what the doc told them, and my dead name was kinda a last minute fill-in.

They never hid this fact, happily told me about other name choices when I asked, but Rose was always at least my dad’s favorite and my mom’s top “acceptable” choice. When my egg finally cracked, I tried other names but Rose just… Felt like a birthright. Like for 30+ long years there was the real me just begging for the mask to say my name. Nothing else felt like me.

I made a spreadsheet, of a bunch of random nouns I thought had name potential, and then asked my partner and friends their opinions and documented the results

Got drunk with friends and wrote down all the names that might work, and tried then one by one. Good thing the first one stuck, cause the next one was womannator 3000

Born with a unisex name, so my parents 🤷

So when I told my mum about me I wanted it to be a little of an ice-breaker for her to brainstorm a new one with me. I had some ‘soft’ requirements - appropriate for my age, something I could shorten and greek-ish (deadname and my sister’s names both are, not like we have any familial link or anything). I’m the eldest of 2 and for years we have known her name had she been a boy but for some reason we both thought my other name was what she got called. Turns out it wasnt true and my mum said “oh no you were going to be called x”. And when I heard it I realised it fulfilled all my requirements, kinda suited me and it just felt nice, like it was mine to reclaim.

(Btw, username unrelated lol)

Just picked a normal-ish name off a list that shares its initial with my deadname (well, more like zombiename at this point), so my work email can’t change and i can just go by “F. Lastname” instead of “Firstname Lastname” when i want to keep my gender ambiguous.

ETA: you can also just try out a name with friends or on socials for a bit before committing to it, and you can always change it later.

Read about history, and then steal the name of the most badass woman you find.

Following this thread with interest, because I’m currently fumbling and changing it often. Can’t find something I like.

I know my parents picked a female name for me (they didn’t check ultrasounds before birth) but unfortunately I don’t know what it was. I am really curious to know. Unfortunately I’m not able to ask them. I wonder if I can dig up some old records…

edit: I found it written in my baby book. Pretty emotional experience tbh. I’ll try it out.

Both my sisters’ names end with -ina. So I changed my name to something that also ends with -ina for consistency.

Mine was picked from a character in a show who gave me so much (at the time unidentified) gender envy as a kid. I used the name in a game for a while to see if I liked people referring to me by that name and fell in love with it.

And then I picked a middle name that was more out there, but that I also liked, so if I ever wanted to change things up, I could use either.

it was a joke and it stuck (it is the same as a muppet, but i am kind of a muppet so it worked)

So basically, I was given my name haha. With permission from me of course. But at the time when I was just becoming aware that I’m trans I met some friends on VRChat. We would regularly hangout and stuff and the topic of names came up. I told them my now dead name and instantly my friend suggested the name “Allie”. So I just rolled with it and it stuck and I liked my new name. Which is strangely fitting since my avatar is part cat, like an Alley Cat haha.

So yeah! Now I go by Allie now! But I’m probably gonna just use that as a preferred nickname and when I do my name change I’ll probably write down “Allison”. “Allie” for short. I’m also considering changing my middle name to “Nicole”. But we’ll see.

I haven’t done my legal name change yet.

Stole it from Lena Raine :3

I think it should be normal for parents who chose gendered names and have a ‘boy’ name and ‘girl’ name picked, to suggest their trans child the other name. and if the parents are good and deserve it, it should be considered.

Saying this because I named my daughter after a video game character, and if he becomes trans, I think he should consider the male character for a name… But I doubt he would want to be Jeb