• jtrek@startrek.website
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    2 days ago

    That’s a ridiculous amount of money to spend.

    Most of my first dates were like

    • walk to bar ($0) or subway ($3)
    • a drink for both ($10 - $30)
    • transit back ($0 or $3)

    Even two drinks wouldn’t probably break the $100 barrier.

    There are cheaper options, too. Coffee. Park walk and snacks. Free museums.

    I didn’t have much trouble meeting people on the same page.

    Edit: a full ass dinner date is a terrible idea for early dating. Don’t go on early dates you can’t quickly bail on.

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      Yeah, the article (perhaps intentionally, for clicks) misreads the underlying survey as being about first dates when it’s actually about all dates. Dates with someone you’re already fucking and sleeping over with is going to be a bit different to budget for, compared to first dates (which the second study they quote says is at around $93).

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        That’s an important detail. Clicking through, it says

        A first date in our study means one shared starter, two main courses and two cocktails. For each restaurant, we pulled the median starter, main and cocktail price from the menu. For each city, we took the median across all fully-priced restaurants.

        That’s extremely heavy for a first date. It’s a poor strategy for several reasons to go that hard the first time you’re meeting someone.

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      Most of my first dates were like

      walk to bar ($0) or subway ($3) a drink for both ($10 - $30) transit back ($0 or $3)

      Pack of condoms, $8.

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        As a real cheapskate, you should keep an eye out for places give them out for free. There’s an LGBT center near me with a giant basket for free, and a free clinic a longer walk away that gives them out and also does free STI tests.

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      where do you live there are 5 dollar drinks and 10 dollar cocktails?

      I live in a major city. two beers is $20 before tax and tip, two cocktails is closer $30. bar tenders in my city expect 25-30% tip, and tax is about 8-9%, and many places start a 5% service fee now. So you’re adding 40% extra costs, so that $20 for two beers is now $30, easy. Two cocktails, is $50.

      When I go out, by myself, and get a hamburger and fries and two beers, at a dive/cheap place, it’s $60. Even a fast food joint, with no alcohol, it’s $20-30 for a hamburger, fries, and a soda. If I go to the nice gastropub style place, it’s going to be closer to $75-80.

      Even a burrito is $15 now.

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        Are they really expecting 25 to 30 percent tip? It shouldn’t be more than 10 percent as it was forever because the prices went up so their tips already went up.

        I will tip 20 now because it’s the norm but it pisses me off. At 25 percent I basically am going to just stop tipping at all.

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        Brooklyn, where there’s a couple local bars I like. My favorite bar has $5 cans, but the more recognizable drinks are in the $10-$15 range. Two drinks is about $30, then.

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            I don’t want to dox myself but my two go-to bars with cheap drinks are within walking distance of prospect Park. The second favorite’s cheap beer is like $7