Yes, walking with fishnets at 2AM is a bad idea, for multiple reasons.
But the one reason in particular that stopped me WAS THE COLD WIND 😭.

Not only does my hair get messed up instantly, but also…I’m barely wearing clothes. The fishermen are starving and I’m freezing to death, lol.



I need your honest opinions on this outfit…
In my opinion, it isn’t too flattering, particularly the top. But anyway, it consists of this:

  • The fishnets, my bf bought for me quite a while ago. I do like fishnets, however they make me look…like I’m meeting up with a paying client (in my very vulgar opinion)
  • The skirt is one I got at the mall, at a store called Cropp. There was only one left, and it’s a size S, so I was sure it wouldn’t fit.
    But somehow, through the power of sheer transfem witchcraft, it sits comfortably on my waist and is stopped from falling by my hips. Neat!
  • The top is one I got from Vinted (of course 😆). It was surprisingly cheap and I liked the style. The material is alright, the size is…interesting, and it even has a little chain that makes it look like I’m wearing a necklace!
    The downside is, I can’t wear a bra underneath, because it just looks really bad, so my boobs and nipples just stick straight out. I don’t mind that too much tbh.
    Also, I think the size is wrong…sometimes it hides my belly, sometimes it shows my belly. And also…is this meant to be worn with a skirt? It doesn’t really look like it…
  • The choker is also Vinted, not much to say there. I love chokers!
  • Aaaand, lastly I have some makeup on, which isn’t clothing, but it probably belongs in this list too 😆. I’m not good at makeup, at all, so it’s really simple: primer, foundation, concealer, finishing powder (essential!!!), a little bit of blush, mascara and a subtle but volumizing lipstick.
    I don’t think I did too badly, but there is so much room for improvement, oh my god…

I’m really disappointed I didn’t get to go out. I’ll try again tomorrow, it’s no big deal, it’s just…I spent lots of time getting ready and I was really looking forward to it. Oh well, tomorrow is another day 🙂.

P.S: Also, how do I keep posting elevator posts on injection day?? It’s not on purpose. You probably can’t tell, but there’s a band-aid on my right thigh 😂.

  • FRYD@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    4·
    2 days ago

    I’m not a fan of the top tbh. In general and with this outfit. One of the basic style “rules” is to pair loose items with tighter/fitted items. A loose skirt with a loose top –especially in the same color– lacks enough contrast to define any part of your body or outfit. A tight top with that skirt would do a much better job emphasizing your hips and chest.

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      2·
      1 day ago

      That’s totally valid! Thanks for the feedback.

      I do actually have a tight top, which my mother gave me. I’ll try it with the same skirt next time

      • FRYD@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        2·
        1 day ago

        I definitely like the skirt. It just needs something that defines your waist and a bit of your torso above it so it can really make your hips pop. With a black-on-black outfit, it’s pretty hard to avoid looking like a black blob, so I’d personally try to break it up a little. That could be with a crop top or with some accessories like a belt or a light scarf tied around your waist. That’s what I’d do at least.

  • applebusch (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    6·
    2 days ago

    i think it looks cute overall. the only critique i can make is both the bottom and the top are kinda flowy/loose fitting. the general advice is to pair a flowy/loose fitting piece with a tight piece, so if you wear a loose flowy bottom you should pair it with a tight top and vice versa. its possible to pull off full flowy and full tight fits but those are much more dependent on your body shape so they will work great for one person and terrible for another, and us trans fems can have some extra struggles there. this concludes my rudimentary understanding of feminine fits. also fishnets are cute af theyre not slutty at all idk what you mean lol.

    yeah the cold sucks… ive had a few days lately where i wanted to wear a cute fit but it was too cold >.<

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      1·
      2 days ago

      the general advice is to pair a flowy/loose fitting piece with a tight piece, so if you wear a loose flowy bottom you should pair it with a tight top and vice versa

      Yes! That’s what I thought exactly. I have heard that piece of advice and it’s probably why the outfit didn’t look quite right to me.

      also fishnets are cute af theyre not slutty at all idk what you mean lol

      I don’t disagree with them being cute, but…yeah 😂. I think I just have a dirty mind, honestly

      yeah the cold sucks… ive had a few days lately where i wanted to wear a cute fit but it was too cold >.<

      The cold sucks so bad! 😭 Like, I’m almost melting during the day, but at night I can’t even go out in an outfit like this…
      Ugh

      Thank you so much for the advice 🩷

  • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
    6·
    2 days ago

    No NSFW part today 😔.
    You’ve been spared the tell part of kiss and tell today 😂.
    Mainly because there was no kiss part…
    Me and my bf are taking a break from sex for a couple of weeks.
    The preparation for everything is really tiring me out and I need a long break. I don’t know how I’ll ever survive without sex, honestly…

    • applebusch (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      7·
      2 days ago
      &lt;NSFW sex option&gt;

      one of my partners showed me a really cool way to bottom you might want to try if youre getting fatigued from anal. basically you bend your dick down between your legs so its touching your perineum, almost like youre tucking, and put your legs together. youll need to keep your hand down there to hold your dick in place. then you get in prone bone position with your butt elevated and your partner fucks you in the space between your dick and perineum. its kind of like advanced frotting. they rub on your thighs, perineum, frenulum, just a bunch of really nice places.

      for the top it feels somewhat similar to vaginal but slightly less soft, and for the bottom it feels sooo good. at least i think so :3 the nice part is you dont even need to be hard. if anything it works better if you arent. you can also modulate how tight it is with your thighs. its a great way to bottom that requires zero prep.

      just figured id share some arcane sex knowledge. been trying to share with as many trans fems as i can lol.

      • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
        3·
        2 days ago

        I’ve noticed your comment on other posts before. It sounds…definitely interesting.
        I think I’ll have to try it? I can’t even imagine what that would feel like, for either of us.

        Thanks for the tip tho 💜. You’ll know if it works, you just know I’ll be posting it here 😭

        • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          4·
          2 days ago

          You’re right…it is like advanced frotting.

          I should have seen this coming from a hundred miles away…but it made me feel really dysphoric.

          It makes sense, doesn’t it? Frotting. This kind of dysphoria. I’m so stupid. Sorry.

          Thanks for the recommendation. I’m sure it works for most people, but I’m not one of them. I’m sorry

  • Brooke (She/Her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    5·
    2 days ago

    I think the outfit looks great! Very cute ❤️❤️

    Although i feel you on the not being able to wear a bra thing, some of my most comfy stuff is like that 😅

    As for makeup, not sure how long youve been doing it but ill share a few tips that help so much, and helps get it done quicker!

    •full face is great! Sometimes 😂, most days i dont wanna fuss with primer and foundation and conceal and everything that you have to do to make that work. I HIGHLY recommend a good CC cream in your skin tone, E.L.F makes ‘camo cc cream’ that works really well for me and can cover shadow (🤮) and other imperfections w/o a full face. Cuts time to a fraction lol

    •i like finishing spray personally, but to each their own. I find powder makes my face itchy throughout the day lol

    • subtle lip color is the best! Try some tinted lip balms sometime! They dont last for the whole evening but easy to take off and on

    • you didnt mention eye shadow, BUT i have to rave about a thing i learned. Ever watch Burlesque? Great movie, in it Christina Aguilera puts on eye shadow with her finger??? I thought that that shit wouldnt work, but it actually fucking does and im so mad for buying expensive brushes when my fingers were available, just need a tiny brush for the corners and thats it! Ive only tried with shimmer eyeshadow so far but still such a great tip

    Also, you did a great job! You lokk great, much better than some of my first attempts at makeup. Youll get better with practice and time, noones an expert immediately ❤️❤️

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      2·
      2 days ago

      This is great advice, thanks Brooke! ❤️

      • I do prefer full face honestly. I can cover much more of the imperfections that way. Besides, this time it only took me about 20 minutes. It’s not the end of the world for me 😆
      • My ritual of getting powder absolutely everywhere 😭. I don’t think I’d have as much fun with spray 😂. I do get that you prefer spray tho.
      • Tinted balms? Really? I didn’t even know that was a thing…
        My lips are always really dry under my lipstick…this could help a lot!
      • I didn’t mention eye shadow…because I suck at eye shadow 😅. The first time I used it, it was a black one and I overdid it. I looked like I had a crippling cocaine addiction, in addition to a brutal caffeine addiction (kinda true) while also never sleeping…ever.
        I’ve tried it multiple times since (I even got a nice pallette from a friend of mine (cis woman), for my birthday. I never really got the hang of it…but I’d love to learn. When done right, I think it looks phenomenal.
        Also…I didn’t know I was supposed to use anything but my finger…that’s what I’ve been doing. It might work for someone who knows what they’re doing, but I think I’ll try a brush…
      • I also wanted to mention eyeliner…the other thing I completely suck at (I just suck at eyes fr 😭). My bf bought me a nice felt tip one and…I just can’t do it. I’ve never really learned how to draw and this feels similar. I just look like a caricature every time. So I just leave my eyes alone…

      Thank you so much Brooke 😭. I’ll try to practice with eye shadow some more and I definitely need to get a tinted lip balm, omg.

      Thanks so much 💜

    • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      3·
      2 days ago

      Exactly! How am I supposed to show myself off in weather like this?? 😭

      our bodies, we ‘suddenly’ like

      I know you’re joking, but this was an arduous process for me. I used to hate myself, full on hate.
      Not just pre-HRT, but in the earlier stages as well (I’m still early, but meh…).
      As soon as the novelty of “Oh, I have magic blue sweet sexy pills that will make me sexy and also grow breasts” (bad analogy) wore off, it got BRUTAL.

      I’m glad I’m here now tho ❤️

      • kluczyczka (she/her)@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
        3·
        2 days ago

        glad you are becoming more at peace.

        i have dysphoric moments and stuff i can not wear. sure. but when i saw myself the first time with a hint of breasts in a tight top, i indeed suddenly liked myself. those moments are becoming more frequent. :)))

        • AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          3·
          1 day ago

          but when i saw myself the first time with a hint of breasts in a tight top, i indeed suddenly liked myself

          Girl, same 😭
          I couldn’t figure out if I wanted to just wear a T-shirt without a bra, showing my brand new breasts off to the world, or if it would be too vulgar and I should hide them.
          I chose the former 😆

          those moments are becoming more frequent. :)))

          So happy for youuu <3
          Keep on slaying ❤️