• yesman@lemmy.world
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    Y’all ever notice how much male sexuality is performative for the benefit of other men? I’m not saying that they’re gay, they just seem more motivated by peer approval and status than touching a girl.

    I recently saw an interview with a stripper who said that the dudes who wanted attention from the girls used $100 bills and were discrete, while the dudes who tossed 100 $1 bills were more interested in the attention of their buddies.

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      There’s a weird thing with “conquest”, pulling the ladies, and being somewhat deviant that’s tied to manliness and straightness for some reason.

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          Lesbians being well known as universally well adjusted women at the pinnacle of mental health? No weird paleolithic-brain shit going on at all? Nice.

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              No, that’s accurate. But laugh implies derision and sense of superiority…over the thing you were responding to…

              I was pointing out lesbians are humans too and not magically immune to stupid relationship things and behaviors. It should be pretty non-controversial but I guess I was wrong.

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                I mean we are superior for other reasons. But no. The same internalized misogyny still applies. That’s why I wrote laughs in lesbian as if conquest is just a straight man thing.

                Your sarcasm about us being the pinnacle of mental health is why you got the downvotes. It’s an allusion to gay = crazy, which ya know, with us being in the DSM until more recently is offensive.

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                  I mean the literal post above was about men being crazy. Which…yes. All humans are insane. But it’s sounding like we both wildly misinterpreted the other so 🤷.

                  Never heard of this gay=crazy thing, if you’re considering the DSM I assume much much older. And because I had to, I checked. 1974 it was removed, which explains why I’ve never heard of it. Still has the concept of distress over ones sexuality but…I mean… super anti-gay republicans are proof of this actually being a very sad mental health problem that needs therapy.

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      “Hurr durr, everyone I don’t like is a closet homosexual.”

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    Many defendants arrived at the hearing with their bags packed ready for prison. One of them was in tears as he hugged his companion before entering the courtroom.

    Aww, boo fucking hoo. 🖕🏾

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        Whoosh?

        (In case this doesn’t translate, this indicates you completely missed that this is the point of the joke. It is funny in a very very dark way that my country will put people in jail for 20 years over a few doses of marijuana while France picks the same time frame for gang-raping and drugging a woman. In most instances I think the french numbers would be more sane, but in this case I think those men deserve life in prison because they cannot be redeemed and must be removed from society.)

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          Eligible for probation at 13 years and 4 months. I hope he suffers.

          They should’ve thrown out the maximum years for a case like this. They should’ve thrown out parole eligibility too.

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            If you can throw it out for one case you can throw it out for every case.

            Unlike the US, most countries in the EU - including France - have a justice system that is not attempting to maximize recidivism, which is why maximum sentences exist for every crime except murder.

            Furthermore, at least in Germany the constitutional court ruled that life sentences without the eligibility of parole violate human dignity as such sentences would take away all hope from prisoners which significantly harms them. I wouldn’t be surprised if France had similar rulings.

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    “okay but women not wanting to date men is just overreacting” - a sentiment we see even here on fucking Lemmy.

    Fifty different men. He also trained these men how to rape their wives.

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      I can’t imagine wanting/needing to rape my wife. There are so many layers to that I don’t even know where to begin wrapping my brain around it.

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        I dated a woman who badly wanted me to roleplay raping her. I knew I could never get into it, and if that’s what she wants she should be able to have it I guess, so I broke up with her instead.

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      “okay but women not wanting to date men is just overreacting” - a sentiment we see even here on fucking Lemmy.

      I was thinking it really wasn’t that bad on here as you described, but I just read some other comments under this post and I was dead wrong. Disappointing.

      EDIT: The other comments seem to have been removed

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      “okay but women not wanting to date men is just overreacting” - a sentiment we see even here on fucking Lemmy.

      We’ve dodged a lot of the usual garbage from Reddit over here, but that one definitely stuck around. The only negative comments I’ve received on any of my lemmy accounts are guys furious when you point out men are more violent partners. Like they just cannot admit that as a society the ‘boys will be boys’ mentality was used to allow a lot of awful behaviours like rape. Hell, Revenge of The Nerds has a rape scene in it and people only recently started to speak out against it.

      So, sorry for the downvotes, but at least we all know it’s a bunch of insecure men. Maybe they’ll learn, maybe they won’t, but you have allies here in the mean time.

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      The irony of people downvoting this… Can’t see the forest through the trees. Or more accurately, can’t see further than the tips of their dicks.

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        Misandry is ok but misogyny isn’t?

        And ya’ll wonder why people think there’s a double-standard…

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          You’re in a thread about a woman who was raped by over 50 different men, and all you’re concerned with is “WhAt AbOuT tHe MeN!?!?!”.

          Crawl out of your own asshole please.

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            Err… this comment chain was literally started due to misandry.

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              1 in 5 women in the US are raped at some point in their lives. It’s not misandry to avoid men when there’s a 20% chance you’ll be raped. That’s just good sense.

              Unhappy with that? Work to create a safer society for women, instead of trolling a post about a woman who was raped hundreds of times by fifty different men.

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                Yeah, I’ve heard the same thing about why it’s acceptable to be afraid of certain minorities because they “statistically commit more crimes.”

                Neither are excuses for bigotry and prejudice.

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        Personally, I have raped exactly the number of women in my life that I have wanted to. 0.

        Just because you are a man, it does not automatically make you untrustworthy, but it is prudent to exercise caution with all people in general—we are unpredictable apes.

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          People are definitely shit, in general, but we shouldn’t ignore statistics because of that. Men are awful. We’re the worst.

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          yeah I have since amended to really just people in general. Another thing people need to remember is that unfortunately people tend to be screwed by the people closest to them. We are a sad little species.

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            We are a normal species. It is not unusual for animals to pick on the weak—just look at how many mammals eat the runt of the litter.

            The lesson, I believe, is to take your own protection seriously, and not underestimate the potential of people around you due to familiarity. Hope for the best, be prepared for the worst.

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    Watch precisely how they defend all the men. Rape is rape. No matter what. Lock them up, forget where you have put the Keys.

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      Like what if reading too many science books actually was illegal and you could go to jail for that?

      That’s an odd thing to compare to rape

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      It would fucking suck if all you wanted was so easily reachable and achievable without harm to anyone but totally illegal.

      Do tell sir, how what this woman went through wasn’t ’harming anyone’.

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      Well the main difference there would be between this case and sex between you and your wife I’d hope would be there was consent between you two.

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      You want your wife to drug you and then let 50 men rape you?

      Well, if you consent to that, then nobody will go to jail and all will be well.

      Unless the drugs are illegal, I guess. Use legal drugs and write your consent. Have a lawyer look it over. Then, have fun!