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    2 days ago

    After spending ten minutes on the toilet pondering, I think „growing facial hair“ is the best counter-example I can come up with.

    Or I just don‘t know enough women who like growing facial hair.

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      That’s simple. Growing facial hair isn’t cool, it’s facial hair itself that’s cool.
      Someone with a big walrusy Wilford Brimly moustache is cooler than someone who’s working on growing a moustache.

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        Well groomed, long hair, like well-maintained, thick, stretched earlobes, communicate patience and the ability to finesse your way through difficult, potentially uncomfortable situations in service of a larger, long term goal. Unfortunately, you can be very patient at becoming an asshole as well as becoming a decent, well rounded person. Facial hair doesn’t make you cool. Being a cool person makes you cool.

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      2 days ago

      I’m very glad for my eyebrows and eyelashes, and there’s that Sikh woman (relevant because of the religious ban on cutting hair) whose wedding picture went viral like a decade ago. She had a pretty full beard and had styled it beautifully with small flowers woven into it.

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      As an enby I respectfully disagree. I personally don’t enjoy the stage of facial hair where it looks like crap but I like beards and if I could make it past that stage without chopping it off I think I would very much enjoy letting it grow.

      Very good suggestion though.

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          22 hours ago

          I’m not a woman and wasn’t claiming to be. People can be only partially female I think there’s labels like demigirl and genderfluid which are relatively common and can fit the partially/sometimes female if you want to do further research. (Also Sometimes I do feel rather fem myself)

          So enbies can be “women lite” but it’s an umbrella term for anyone that isn’t just (not meant in a negative way) male/female.

          The problem here seems to arise from the assumption that non male people would be women.

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      2 days ago

      I would really love to have a beard. I have joked that I am clearly wishing I were a dwarven woman, because besides this, I am very happy with my assigned gender at birth

      I also have a friend who, due to hormonal stuff, naturally grows an extremely thick and impressive beard and wishes that they didn’t have to shave it (if they don’t, they get hate crimed :( )

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        most real reply here.

        Happy bearded ladies are real. Upsets the hyperbreeding propaganda in my country though, so harassment and supression is real. But those things come from other people, not the beard growing itself.

        Verified real complaints about sweaty summer beard. Also braids and beads sexy.

        Also, intersex people are real, varied, and probably more common than red hair genotypes. Either ridiculed or fetishized, again not unlike ginger pigmentation.

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      I know someone who has given up on figuring out what their gender is. They’ll happily accept any pronouns but hear “she/her” most often due to their appearance. She wants a beard so bad, and already grows a tiny mustache.

      So basically your 10 minutes were for naught

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        Tell them to watch some YouTube videos on growing facial hair with the use of minoxidil. The foam kind is best.

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      2 days ago

      Not a woman, but I know an agender person who’s super hyped to get facial hair.

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        I feel like at least half the men I see have at least a goatee (which I think look terrible) if not a beard (which looks good as long as it’s not a neckbeard). I can’t grow a full beard but sometimes I grow my mustache out for fun. It’s extra fun because it’s orange and people don’t expect that. Not fun for my wife though because my facial hair is extremely stiff and prickly.

        I think beards being “in” now has helped a lot of guys with their self image because they don’t like the shape of their face.

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        2 days ago

        Some of us were doing facial hair before it was cool…

        … And some of us started going bald in their teens and wanted beards to help cover up double chins and a tiny mouth but did enjoy a brief period of looking like white Jesus before that happened 🧔‍♀️

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          Personally I come from a long line of hairy fuckers. Clean shaven is not an option because it literally grows back in less than a day. Plus I like the beard had it for decades.

          As hairy as my face is, I’m thankful I didn’t get the hairy back gene. My legs, chest and ass though, I’m kind of like a satyr without hooves.

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      2 days ago

      Using a cup while playing sports? I don’t know if it’s a like though…