• StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zone
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    10 days ago

    Got the details for the funeral for my old colleague. I’m going to go, even though I haven’t spoken to him in years and years, since before COVID even. He made working at Computershare tolerable - guaranteed to make me cry-laugh with the jokes and witty comebacks he had for the micro-managers there😂 taught me how to handle those managers when I took over his role.

    It’s the least I can do I think, pay my respects and remember how he made me laugh so hard.

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    Someone used just about all of my butter in the work fridge! I’m probably more annoyed that they left the tiniest little scrape in the corner instead of just throwing it out the container.

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    Was meant to catch up with a friend at 3. Last night she changed it to 3:30 because a new update for a game she’s playing is out. Whatever, that’s fine. I tell her to text me when she’s leaving so I can leave then. She’s fine with that.

    I decided to leave earlier and get there at 3:30, because I have a jazz playlist I want to listen to. But it hits 3:30, and she still hasn’t texted me saying she’s left. She sends me a picture of her game asking which option I liked more. I asked her if she’s left and she said no. She does live a 5 minute drive away from where we’re meeting, so I guess that’s not too bad. She is apologising profusely. Now it’s been 15 minutes since we were supposed to meet, and she said she has to brush her teeth and wash her face. She is nocturnal because of her (undiagnosed but probable) gaming addiction.

    Am I overreacting? I am pissed off even though she’s going to be 20 minutes late, but it wasn’t because of something like traffic or PTV issues. She could control it. Last week she also pissed me off because she’s unemployed and using her dad’s money. She said, when buying food,

    “It’s not my money. I don’t care.”

    I need new friends. I downloaded Bumble for Friends today. Hoping I can get a group of people together and make at least one friend from there. I need friends that don’t trauma dump on me or are selfish.

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      She is apologising profusely.

      But not actually doing anything about fixing her behaviour? That’s crappy, you deserve better than that. Even if you had waited for her to text to, she’s still leaving you waiting when agreed on a time and then chose to game. And the rub salt in the wound by sending you a picture of said game.

      Sorry, that makes me very angry on your behalf. You are not overreacting, she is not respecting you.

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      Please report on how BFF goes! I just looked it up and am disappointed to be told I can’t be friends with guys. This is dumb.

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      I’d be pissed as well.

      Excuses excuses excuses, I can’t really be ok with that

      Her attitude is basically if it’s her skin or responsibility then she can shrug it off and do whatever she wants.

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      “It’s not my money. I don’t care.”

      omg, this is like the opposite of what an average person would think and say

      does she earn her keep at home or is she a princess?

      because a lot of people, like me, don’t work but work their butt off at home to earn their keep

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        Yep she helps her dad out with his business.

        We ended up playing video games, and one of them I am especially bad at. She enjoys spending time with me just hanging out, but if she plays with someone who has a lower skill level, it works out better for her.

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        Cheers. That is true.

        I think a lot of the time, at my age, people fall out with their friends or just become more isolated, as everyone goes their separate ways after studying. I know a couple of people who met some of their closest friends from there and they’ve just gone overseas together. But I will be cautious.

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        My hobbies tend to be more solitary and at a beginner level. I’m thinking of joining a run club once I get better at running. Also want to try DnD.

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          DnD is a great place to make friends. Try to find a group of your peers. Many Uni’s have role playing clubs as well as a bunch of options around town.

  • Gibsonhasafluffybutt@aussie.zone
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    I know how to describe what’s happening.

    My life feels neglected while I was taking suboxone. Now I’m awake and it’s like “where is everything?”.

    It hurts a bit.

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      deep thoughts for 7am which may or may not be relevant

      Maybe what you’re feeling is grief for the time spent on suboxone - grief for the wasted time. But taking it may well have been a higher priority at the time, and so should not be regretted in the overall scheme of things. Feel the grief, and move on. This takes courage, which you have in plenty.

      EDIT: Like a broken leg: you go to hospital and a plaster cast is put on, then when the bone has healed the cast comes off and your leg is shrunken and muscle wasted, so you do physio to get back function in the leg. Then you can put away the crutches and walk forward freely. In this analogy, the cast was was suboxone, the grief is the physio. Eventually you’ll walk forward freely. The physio is not wasted - it’s a necessary step in healing.

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        Thank you ❤️

        It makes sense and the analogy is accurate. There is a panic to make up for lost time as quickly as possible.

        Which can’t be done, which then turns into frustration and sadness.

        You’ve given me a lot to think about, thank you :)

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    “Oh hey, sorry I’m going to need the rest of the week off. My cat is having seperation anxiety.”

    Edit: I had my first random endorphin rush today. And my first real laugh in a decade.

    Felt great :)

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    Wake up early and refreshed, get dressed, drive to the train station…bus replacement service.

    So back at home in trackies and debating whether to chuck a sickie.

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    There is a package waiting for me at my front door. Now I just have to wait 9 hours until I can go home to get it!

    Edit: now there are two packages!! What an exciting day.

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    Muting people on my Insta excessively posting about being in Europe. I’m happy for them and all, and yes I’m jealous, but I don’t need to see daily stories & every-other-day profile posts about your trip.

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    Seeing the newly released Erin Patterson evidence, like photos of dehydrator with mushrooms in it, and mushrooms being weighed, and her trying to leave the hospital despite being told her life was at risk, and having zero concern about her kids being at risk; makes me wonder why the jury deliberated for so long. She knew what she’d done and confidently knew she hadn’t served herself or the kids any.

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    I had too much coffee… several hours of indigestion and burping later, I’m still wired and tired, deep in rabbit holes over what constitutes an employee vs independent contractor for the purposes of superannuation guarantee… and how to word contracts so as not to hand over IP or be stuck in exclusivity classes…