• PotatoesFall@discuss.tchncs.de
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    European kids are taught that racism is bad but not how real, systemic, subtle racism actually looks. We are taught that slavery and hitler is bad, so our bar for what is acceptable is very low.

    This is also why Europeans will get offended if you point out something subtly racist they did/said. They think you’re straight-up comparing them to Hitler and the KKK.

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      That seems like how it is in the US too.

      “Racism is only a thing very bad evil people do. I’m not an very bad evil person. Thus I cannot have done racism.”

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        “what you said was kinda racist”

        “How dare you, I’m not a racist!”

        The unacknowledged shift from the adjective form “racist” to the noun form “racist” is the best indicator that someone doesn’t really get what racism actually is in real life.

        As an example of why that’s wrong, I can do something stupid without being a stupid.

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          Many people need to accept that they are not perfect, and be open to learning. Instead, many people lash out. Gotta protect their ego.

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        Everyone always laughs at the people who complain about “woke” and asks them to “define woke”, but can you define racism?

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          Racism

          Racism is the belief that groups of humans possess different behavioral traits corresponding to inherited attributes and can be divided based on the superiority of one race or ethnicity over another. It may also mean prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against other people because they are of a different ethnic background.

          From Wikipedia

          a belief that race is a fundamental determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race

          From Merriam-Webster

          harmful or unfair things that people say, do, or think based on the belief that their own race makes them more intelligent, good, moral, etc. than people of other races

          From Cambridge dictionary

          As for Woke

          chiefly US slang, disapproving : politically liberal or progressive (as in matters of racial and social justice) especially in a way that is considered unreasonable or extreme

          From Merriam-Webster

          a way of referring to the acts and opinions of people who are especially aware of social problems such as racism and inequality, used by people who think these acts and opinions have gone too far

          From Cambridge dictionary as “wokeism”/“wokery”

          • Windex007@lemmy.world
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            The guy was obviously being a troll.

            But, there certainly isn’t a consensus on racism. Some vocal elements demand that for for something to be racist, there also has to be a racial power imbalance working in the favor of the person being racist… and they’ll use that distinction to explain how actions that would be evaluated as racist by the definitions you provided actually aren’t if the target is in a position of racial privilege.

            And, personally, I think that definition was literally seeded as a wedge by state actors for the explicit purpose of sowing discord, but here we are.

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              That’s just misapplying an academic definition in a colloquial circumstance, which happens a lot in various disciplines. It’s like the “what is a vegetable” question: it means different things to a botanist, chef, and tax collector.

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                Ah, the American Millennial: the generation that could’ve led us toward utopia if they cared more about actions than words.

                (yes I see the whole academic definitions thing as a specifically Millennial trait)

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                  So just dismiss everything the person tried to explain to you, because you’ve decided, with absolutely no proof that they’re millennial? The fuck is wrong with you?

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                    No??? But, like, a lot of them seemed to not know the difference between “this is what this word means here” and “this is what this word means.”

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          Colloquially, racism means prejudice based on the perception of someone’s “race” (ie: ancestry, physical characteristics such as skin tone).

          That covers things like assuming a black man knows about gangs and rap based only on their skin color.

          There’s also the institutional level where individuals might not really think or feel anything about race, but it still is a factor. Stuff like closing polling places in predominantly black neighborhoods, or individual police officers who are given a quota and only assigned to black neighborhoods. Housing in the US has a long history intersecting with the idea of race. “The Color of Law” was a pretty good read on it.

          Wikipedia puts it nicely:

          Racism can also be said to describe a condition in society in which a dominant racial group benefits from the oppression of others, whether that group wants such benefits or not.

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            That covers things like assuming a black man knows about gangs and rap based only on their skin color.

            To a back person:

            “Hey! You’re from Philly? I know a black guy from Philly, named Pete. Do you know him?”

            I’ve honestly heard people say stupid shit like that, multiple times in my life.

    • BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.today
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      Trust me, A LOT of racists in America have no idea they are racist, and would be highly offended if you called them racist.

      “I’m not racist! I work with a black guy at work all the time. I don’t know much about him, I’ve never asked him about himself, but he’s a pretty good guy, one of the good ones.”

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        I don’t know much about him, I’ve never asked him about himself,

        Fair, that’s just called “guys” and doubly so for “work.” Mostly jokes and work shit, good dude.

        one of the good ones.

        Line crossed lol.

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      When I was in grad school I lived in an international student dorm where I was basically the only American. One day we had a party, and after a few drinks the Europeans started into this game they’ve all seemingly done a hundred times before where they started saying the most vile shit I’ve ever heard to each other while laughing. Like “OK, sure everyone in my country is drunk all the time, but it’s better than you guys letting in all those thieving gypsys!”

      So they did a full round of about 20 people throwing the worst racism/nationalism I’ve ever come across in real life at each other, including absolutely dunking on the only black guy as if he was a representative for all africans, then like a hive mind they all turned to me and someone went “At least none of us are as racist as these Americans!” followed by uproarious laughter. I ask myself internally all the time if my behavior is problematic, but it seemed like these people never learned that skill but instead were taught “USA=racist, everyone else is good” and never questioned it or themselves.

      For years this led me to privately think “Man, Europeans are way worse.” But then, you know, we elected Trump twice and the Klan came back dressed in camo.

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        When my son was in college in NYC, he deliberately cultivated a circle of friends from all over the world, which gave him a lot of interesting influences and insights that most American kids wouldn’t have.

        After graduation, they were hanging out together, collaborating on projects (they are all various sorts of artists), and starting their careers, when he started to notice a troubling thread running through their conversations.

        He started to realize that the reason that all these international kids were in America studying the arts, is because they all come from rich families who can afford to send them to NYC for an education, and then fund their lifestyles as they pursue whatever career path they want. They have no real motivation for success, because the parents are going to pay the rent anyway. They were jamming multiple people into an apartment not because of affordability, but because it was fun to be with your friends all day. They just reproduced dorm living in a $5000 NYC apartment in Manhattan.

        But the real issue came when they’d be sitting around eating and talking, and he started noticing how class-conscious they were, and judgemental of people without a lot of money - like my son. He was listening to them disparaging normal people, and realizing that they are talking about people like him. Not HIM specifically, they thought of him as one of them, and liked him, but he realized that he comes from the world they were ridiculing. When he would defend a political policy meant to protect the middle-class, or to punish the wealthy, they would look at him like he was spontaneously speaking another language.

        He was starting to realize that maybe he had to cut off several of these “friends,” when Covid hit and they all went back to their respective countries. A few have been back to visit, and he’s decided to continue friendships with some, like his friend in Australia, and let some friendships go, like his friend from Portugal. He is still sad about the collapse of his international friend circle, but he acknowledges that he learned a lot about class and the way the wealthy think.

        He is a big Mamdani/ AOC supporter.

    • plantfanatic@sh.itjust.works
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      Such a weird take, every single other thing isn’t binary, yet suddenly racism is? Self reflection and critical thinking are what’s lacking.

      Shouldn’t have to be taught to treat others with respect or how you would treat yourself.

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          To be fair, before a certain age kids really can’t contextualize anything beyond binary. Its either good or bad.

          For a real world example, there’s a new solar farm not far from where we live. The company that set it up engaged in some shady bullshit acquiring the farm land which was entirely owned by small family farms, with a couple of family farms effectively forced to exit the farming business by their shady bullshit. For my mother in law who’s a huge MAGA supporter, she bought all of the propaganda about renewable energy being terrible, so the local scandals over this solar project fit right into her worldview. My wife and I want a better world, so we take a more nuanced view of “that was bullshit but at least the panels will be generating clean electricity for the next 20-30 years or more” my kids are caught in the crossfire as both my in-laws and we attempt to inform them, but not directly throw the other adults under the bus. My 6 year old has really struggled with understanding how they should feel and it’s taken multiple long discussions over multiple years to get to “solar panels are good but taking good farmland is bad”

          Any discussion with important nuance is extremely difficult with young kids because they really can’t understand nuance yet. They can kinda understand “yes but” with enough education time but more complex than that it completely falls apart. Kids can’t fully wrangle with complex thoughts and metacognition until basically adolescence, and before that point it’s largely just black and white reasoning.

          So in short, kids will be taught in a purely binary manner until about age 10-12 when their brains are finally developed enough for more complex reasoning, and anyone who checked out of learning around that age will likely be pretty deficienct in more complex skills and issues

      • Openopenopenopen@lemmy.world
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        Shouldn’t have to be taught to treat others with respect or how you would treat yourself

        No disrespect, but I disagree. Respect is absolutely a learned behavior.

        what ever respectful means is a defined by your culture. What is considered respectful is different in the uk versus the us, at least that’s what thought this post was about.

        Kids absolutely need to be taught this. Kids don’t magically share, or treat each other with respect. You teach kids how to be respectful everyday.

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          what ever respectful means is a defined by your culture. What is considered respectful is different in the uk versus the us, at least that’s what thought this post was about.

          Umm that’s racism…. You’re describing what it means to be racist. If you need to be taught that only certain things/people/races/religion/colour are to be respected… that’s why people think black people don’t have livers.

          You are the issue mate, full disrespect. You are racist. If you choose be respectful to someone only to blend into those around you… you don’t deserve any respect.

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          You need to be taught to treat others the way you would yourself?

          Or are you teaching your kids who and what to respect? Because you’re doing the latter, not the former and are perpetuating these issues.

          This has nothing to do with culture at large, that’s justifications for rasicm, and that’s what you’re teaching your kids. The exact issue that’s trying to be pointed out.

      • Jerkface (any/all)@lemmy.ca
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        Self-reflection and critical thinking are almost always defeated by social conformance among healthy well-adjusted humans. For a social animal, it is more important to agree with the group than to be objectively correct.

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          social conformance among healthy well-adjusted humans

          By racism you mean? Those are leaned behaviors that take over from being taught that others are different from you.

          Humans inherently care, and love each other. Anything else is taught by someone else who thinks they know what’s okay.

          The only objectively correct way to treat anyone else is how you treat yourself. Anything else is just learned hate.

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            Humans inherently care, and love each other. Anything else is taught by someone else who thinks they know what’s okay.

            The hell you on about? I ain’t givin shit about anybody who’s not already in my friend circle and sure as hell last time I checked I am human. Empathy varies a lot in humans, some people are naturally caring, some don’t give a damn if most people around them die, most are somewhere between so chill out.

            The only objectively correct way to treat anyone else is how you treat yourself. Anything else is just learned hate.

            Let others reap what they sow. Extend some respect at first and give benefit of the doubt but if they aren’t worth it, they simply aren’t worth it. Anything else and you’re gonna get used, trampled and disrespected.

            And that extends to racist, homophobic or transphobic idiots who cannot argue for their stance. If a black person killed your dog and that was only black person you ever saw, yeah, fair you have bad opinion.

            But if you’re like one of my coworkers who hates gay folk cause it’s fun, not respect, die in a ditch.

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            Please don’t talk at me. You’re not really addressing or engaging with what I said. You have a point to make that’s got nothing to do with me, take it to the top level.

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              Of course people don’t like it when it’s pointed out that they were actually taught to be racist.

              You made a wildly racist remark in response to someone saying that everyone should be treated how they treat themselves.

              Of course you’re gonna get called out.

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            Lmao, this is basically religious thinking, with the inevitable “problem of evil”. If people inherently love each other, where does hate come from?

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              where does hate come from?

              From being taught that someone is different from you in some way.

              Does this seriously need to be explained? And do you think babies naturally hate? That they are capable of it without being taught? They know to love and snuggle with humans, any. They’ll even snuggle with a deadly lion. They need to be TAUGHT otherwise.

              Babies don’t care about colour, or religions, they don’t even know what the fuck that stuff is dude. Until they are taught.

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                From being taught

                And who teaches? An another human, right? But doesn’t that human also inherently love other humans? So he must’ve been taught to hate too. If you go step by step into the past, at what point is hate introduced into human society?

                Babies are not fully developed human beings, they don’t have a society, culture, or almost anything else, including basic survival mechanisms, so they’re a pointless comparison. It is ridiculous to think they, left to their nature, wouldn’t develop communities, trust and suspicion, stereotypes, etc. that can eventually build up to racism. We have documented wars among literal apes, humans are definitely not much nicer in their natural state (whatever that might be - it can’t be just “being a baby”).

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                  And the human teaching the baby can CHOOSE what to teach the baby. If you’re teaching it to respect XYZ during ABC, you’re teaching it hate.

                  Babies and kids share, yes there will be fights, that’s also human nature, but look at those reasons. To provide shelter for those close. They aren’t doing it out of hate, it’s for protection or other issues.

                  Just because someone takes your food doesn’t mean you go to war, invite them, share with them. Yes it can go south, but that’s also taught behavior. The chain has to be broken somewhere, and if you need it to be pointed out that you’re one of the issues… well the cutters are there. Just because the past has hate, doesn’t mean you need to perpetuate it forward.

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                    You’ve picked a difficult idea to defend, alright, but you literally just ignored my main question.

                    Why would a human, whose supposed intrinsic tendency is towards care, helping, etc., teach the opposite?

                    Until you answer this directly I see no point in further discussion, especially as in the rest of the comment you’re slipping further and further into absurd idealism (along with underhanded accusations against me just because I don’t share the same Disney cartoon sort of conception of racism as you do).

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        Critical Thinking Skills are the most important skills you can learn, polish, and employ on a daily basis. It is the proper way to think, and if you haven’t downloaded the Critical Thinking software into your brain, then your brain will invent its own chaotic adhoc thinking style, and you will be at the mercy of predators who will manipulate your mushy mind.

        I had an English teacher in the 70s who was really subversive, and taught much differently than normal. I was out of school for years, and as the Conservative movement was growing, I wondered why I wasn’t falling for it, despite listening to Rush Limbaugh at lunch nearly every day.

        Then I realized it was because I had strong Critical Thinking Skills that allowed me to recognize and resist propaganda, even really seductive propaganda like Limbaugh’s.

        Then I realized that the reason my Critical Thinking Skills were so good was because I had gone through three years of Mr. Clark’s English and Shakespeare classes, and he was only using those subjects as vehicles to teach us Critical Thinking Skills, and then practice them every day until they were just our default way of thinking.

        Mr.Clark literally taught us to think properly, and he did it entirely by his own design, outside of the purview of the school system. He was far more subversive than I ever gave him credit for. He was expertly manipulating our minds, as teachers are supposed to do, but he was highly effective, and we are lucky he was motivated by good.

        After I realized all that, I tried to contact him to tell him I was onto him, but he had passed away 5 years before. He may have been the most influential person in my entire life, and I wish I could have told him that.

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      I’m Canadian and this is how I was raised too. Racism = Hitler, KKK, and neo-nazis. That’s why it’s bad.

      So if you’re going to call someone racist, don’t be surprised if they think you’re comparing them to Hitler or the KKK.

      And if you’re going to say that there’s different levels of racism and some are only as bad as stepping on someone’s toes, don’t be surprised if people don’t really care.

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        Only as bad as stepping on people’s toes

        Well, only as bad as someone who cares whether or not they step on some people’s toes, and doesn’t notice/doesn’t care if they step on other people’s toes.