A lot of committed vegans I know don’t sweat over it if mistakes are made on the “vegan” menu. They advise the staff politely, discarding what they can by hand and eating that they can’t. Wasting a meal makes a mockery of the point of being a vegan in many ways.
This teenager possibly gets it. Dad is intentionally overdoing it. There is a lot we can learn about how to do better politics here. Perfection is the enemy of the good.
Edit: Obviously allergies and diseases are a whole other thing. There is a reason getting it right is still very important, but if that’s the case nobody is messing around, especially not Dad.
My wife has a milk allergy. Depending on the ingredient, it can go pretty bad. If they put regular cream in something, she might need to use her EpiPen.
There’s no grumbling or clarification that works. The server will almost always write down no milk, no cheese. Half the time, the kitchen will forget, mix up, or ignore it; sometimes, the server grabs the wrong thing from the warmer.
I have a milk allergy as well. I know her pain.
My I recommend getting into Asian food and trying vegan restaurants? Way less potential for accidents.
Oh we’ve been dealing with it for a long time now :)
She does a lot of vegan places when she can, when she can’t she tries to pick stuff that’s unmistakable.
For the most part it’s mexican food and subs where she gets screwed, it can be hard to tell crema from mayo and cheese from mayo
Without knowing your location many if not most restaurants in US will only allow allergy meals be delivered by a manager. When I worked Buffalo Wild Nuggets the manager would have to prepare and deliver the allergy meal. It keeps the customers more honest when it isn’t just a server taking the blame.
Yeah, US, It’s super rare for her to be taken seriously. I don’t think we’ve had a manager come out for an allergy in 8 years now and that was vacation at Disney.
More often, if they try, they’ll send the waitstaff back out to complain that she can’t have the meal because there are eggs in this or that when she was clear about it being milk, they want to tie it into dairy and for some unknown reason, eggs are considered dairy.
Yeah, why ARE eggs dairy? Just because milk products and eggs are both refrigerated? (in the U.S.)
AI slop has frustrated me in my search to find out. I don’t need 100 hastily-generated pages telling me that eggs aren’t actually dairy. I want to know why they are in the dairy category!
It’s likely because eggs are usually found in the dairy section, and people are stupid.
I’m sure that’s the case now, but I’m curious why it started. Is that not the case in non-western countries?
I wouldn’t think that there’s anything about dairy cow ranching that specifically lends itself to also raising egg hens, but I’m no farmer!
It’s fairly common in my neck of the woods for ranchers to also have a few chicken houses, but I doubt that’s the reason the two are conflated. But my area is one of the major chicken farming areas in the state.
I think it’s just people assuming they’re related because they’re in the same section of the store, but really that’s just so they don’t have to have a separate cooling setup just for eggs.
Best I can tell, and that’s not with much authority, the people who made the US food pyramid put them together because they were stored in the same place in the grocery store. And it was the pyramid that was seen as a source of authority. From every other angle the don’t line up.
That sounds truthy.
Eggs are not dairy, that’s why you can’t find it.
Unless you are using some esoteric definition of dairy that I’m not aware of.
You’re missing my point, and that of the person to whom I replied.
Why are eggs in the dairy aisle of American supermarkets and commonly considered dairy products?
Obviously eggs aren’t made of milk.
I don’t believe you that eggs are commonly considered dairy products. I’ve never heard of that before, and would need something to back up your claim to believe it.
I’ve never heard of that. It’s not a bad idea.
Oh I certainly agree there are people for whom it’s serious. That’s not this meme.
Assuming you are willing/qualified to be a spokesperson for vegans:
When you encounter a menu item marked “Vegan” and discover that it isn’t, do you often speak to the manager to advise them to either remove the label or change the recipe?
I’m not vegan, but I often (not OFTEN but more frequently that my wife would prefer!) mention menu mistakes to the server/cashier in the hopes of helping a future guest.
I think they were talking about the line cooks making a mistake, not the menu being fraudulent.
Certainly possible!
Depends if you like the place and want to come back again. Or indeed if you have the time to do a good deed for others. Power to you good sir. I try to do the same.
I just don’t sweat the small stuff myself. I’m not a vegan or someone with allergies/sensitivities. Power to anyone who wants to be a strict vegan, but I’m just arguing unless you have dietary health reasons, when it comes to minor mistakes, a bit of flexibility just takes the tension away. You aren’t a bad person if you’re not a perfect vegan every meal and nobody (including yourself) should hold it against you if you just eat what’s served, whether a restaurant or friends house.
As another non vegan (AKA “carnist”) I agree FWIW.
I remember hearing a dunk on vegans a while back that went “how do you know someone’s vegan? they’ll tell you.”
but in my experience it’s more like “how do you know someone hates vegans? they’ll tell you.”
Of course vegans will tell you, it’s a dietary restriction.
If you’re even halfway intimate with someone, you’ll likely share a meal or cook for them.
I’m not even vegan, but this particular phrase annoys me hahaha.
Its a catch all punch down cliche for anything where people are trying to improve themselves or the world around them. See crossfit or Linux as other major examples. Its often that they see someone being passionate about something and mocking them for it.
You think linux people DON’T mock others for using windows? Normally in this situation I’d advise you to go use Lemmy for an hour, but…well…here we are, and you still hold that view.
The example is that people mock Linux users with the phrase “How do you know someone uses Linux? Don’t worry, they’ll tell you!”
That says nothing about how Linux users treat others, only how they are used as fodder for people with low self-esteem.
how do you know someone’s vegan? they’ll tell you
That statement reads to me the same as “how do you know someone has food allergies? They’ll tell you.”
EDIT: Just to be clear, I know that allergies are different than boycotts. If the girl could get anaphylactic shock from a drop of milk, the dad would be justified in reacting that way. However, in both cases, it makes sense to inform people that you can’t/won’t eat something.
Yes that seemed to be a big thing cca 10 years ago
I think it’s a lot like any group, religion is a good example. I don’t mind that my best friend is religious. I’ll even wait to start eating and bow my head so he can say a prayer. Because I love and respect him but also it’s just the decent human thing to do. I don’t push my atheism on him and he doesn’t push his religion on me. There are religious people and atheists that I can’t stand. There’s vegans and non vegans I can’t stand. In general I try to remind myself that it’s usually the annoying minority I can’t stand I remember the most and isn’t reflective of the group as a whole. With most things generally.
Sounds like Dad’s heart is in the right place.
He’s either trying to help and overdoing it to embarrass her (a responsibility of us dads) or he’s overdoing it to support her publicly and loudly (which is good but annoying).
Person: “Vegans won’t shut up about being vegan”
Vegan: embarrassed sigh
Person: “They’re constantly telling me about it.”
Vegan: hiding behind something
Person: “I just don’t get it! They’ve got leather clothes. Where do they think wool comes from? Protein is nutrious! Are they too good for eggs?!”
Vegan: Slinking out the back door
I swear, the whole “You know if someone is a vegan because they’ll be sure to tell you” thing is a total myth. Never seen it once in my life.
2010s, OMG they were everywhere. It was just a thing. Veganism became super trendy and people hopped on the bandwagon. Now that it’s not cool anymore, most of them have hopped onto another bandwagon or have aged out of chasing trends altogether. But they’re always out there. Right now, I hear a lot about K-Pop, Formula 1, and… third places. That last one catches me off guard because I have a related degree and when I was in school the concept was relatively obscure, so it catches me off guard, but in a good way (I work in a museum which charges for entry).
Anyway, eventually enough pretentious attention-seekers hop on the bandwagon and annoy enough people that they become the subject of ridicule. They move to the next thing, and the OGs get to be the butt of the joke for a generation. It blows.
The one time it’s completely appropriate to tell people you are vegan is when they ask what you want to eat…
That girl has to shut up about her veganism no one cares but she constantly brings it up. /s
Sounds more like a teenager problem than a vegan problem
Hahaha, my parents do this too. I don’t get what perverse satisfaction they get from it
I forgot that dragon roll is a real thing for a second, and thought that the joke was implying eating dragon is vegan.
Also, doesn’t a dragon roll usually have shrimp in it?
Every dragon roll I have ever had has had lobster and at least one other fish in it. No cheese 🤮
People always talk about pineapple on pizza (I don’t approve either), but I think cheese in sushi is even worse. It just ruins it.
Shredded tuna too. I love fish sushi, but I’d take a veggie one over a roll filled with cooked, shredded tuna. It doesn’t work.
Oh my god cheese in sushi sounds disgusting
There was opportunity in there for a far better and wackier joke, but instead we get a watered-down veganism joke and a jab at an annoying parent’s habits that the artist will regret hating one day.
In my experience it’s eel that’s the ‘dragon’. Although one place around here has fucking chicken in it.
The dragon rolls I’ve seen considered of shrimp tempura and avocado topped with unagi. The eel is the dragon, while the shrimp provides a tail.
I guess that if dragons are related to dinosaurs chicken is about as close as you can get.
Spot on for my Dad. Don’t tell parents anything at all about personal things anymore. I’m not even vegan by any means. They just sneak lactose into everydamnthing as a sweetener and I prefer not taking earth-shattering shits every time I somehow miss it and being in pain when I wake up.
Is dad being an asshole? Or is dad being a dad and intentionally embarassing her?
His face and volume suggest asshole, like he’s actually causing a scene.
But I could see this as having been a much less loud/angry encounter, with dad basically giving his daughter shit by being as dramatic as she is at home. And this whole encounter is being told through the daughters perspective, who inflated the scene/comic.
My take is that he’s being well-meaning but overbearing, based on the “it’s really important to her” comment.
The first comic with the word “vegan” I’ve seen maybe ever. Well done this cartoonist.
Everyone is tired of hearing about vegans. Whatever you want to do in your own bedroom is your business. The end.
You’re now only allowed to eat in the bedroom. Don’t ask me, I don’t make up the rules.The dad is making a big show of how much he supports his daughter… Yet still orders chicken?
(I know not all vegans demand others share their diet, but it would be a nice gesture for him to do)
Would it be as nice gesture if she was to share chicken with him?
TBF, her diet was an ethical choice, and his is probably an unexamined cultural default.
No, her being vegan is a dietary choice. No more or less ethical than being an omnivore or carnivore.
I don’t mean ethical in the sense of her choice being good or bad, but in that people intentionally choose to be vegan because of their ethical belief, as opposed to a cultural preference or a medical restriction.
TBC, I’m not a vegan.
If you don’t see ethical differences between killing a live creature and not doing so, your ethical compass is basically non-existent.
the question is “why”. as in 'why would you kll it" and if the answer is almost any justification (for food, for clothing, for medicine), then it’s probably fine. everything dies and if their death serves some purpose, that’s good.
Hey, would you be fine if I kill you with a justification? For example, I like your stuff, will it be OK if I kill you and take your stuff? What if I also eat your leg, will it be better or worse?
Carl Cohen said “Speciesism is not merely plausible; it is essential for right conduct, because those who will not make the morally relevant distinctions among species are almost certain, in consequence, to misapprehend their true obligations.” and you are demonstrating this for everyone right here
It’s also important to note that there’s not a single part of the animal that doesn’t get used.
Shit, even livestock that dies before slaughter gets used. Dirty Jobs has a few episodes about it
“If you don’t see ethical differences between our real faith and other fake religions, your ethical compass is basically non-existent!”
Another evangelical vegan 🙄
You’re on the same level of evangelism, it’s just you’re advocating both for status quo, which is ew, gross, but also for killing animals, which is a bit evil.
killing animals, which is a bit evil.
Says who?
status quo, which is ew, gross,
Evangelical vegans are certainly unpleasant and deeply disturbed individuals. Not sure if I would call them gross though.
