Honestly, just moving into a semi-walkable 120k pop city did wonders for my social life. Its literally just the convenience of being able to just go and socialize on a dime basically whenever.
People moving into suburbia and rural areas are insane. Just asking for mental illness.
Too bad cities don’t come with friends
Rural area can be walkable as well.
I’m living in a village (~1500 people), we have one car for 3 adults and the car is used maybe once a week on average.
Everything else is done walking or biking. Walking the kids to school taking a path along a steam of water, there is several bar and restaurants in the village center, a bakery, a small grocery shop, a local producers shop, a market, barber … I’m working remotely and I have a coworking space in the village as well.
The streets are always busy and everyone say hi to each other.
We just need to have less car centric spaces.
Walkable city of any size, really. The show in the picture takes place in NYC which is huge but great for getting around without a car, so you can get drunk and have fun. Of course you probably won’t be walking from Queens to Manhattan, but you can take the subway at least
Most of my 20s took place in a very walkable city of 90k and at some point I lived next to my favourite bar. I didn’t spend much time at home.
I feel for the new generation.
Some were born in recession, grew up in covid lockdowns, studying with AI slop, and the the job market is shit. And some losers are trying to create unending wars.
The world is now on hard mode by default.
The world is now on hard mode by default.
That sucks!
I’ll just leave this here
These kinds of experiences aren’t only in cities, but they do become a lot easier if you’re not living in a cow pasture.
Between rent, school loan, car payments and groceries I was pretty much tapped out. Pulling 60hr weeks I didn’t have social time even if I wanted to.
20 years later I never made new friends but at least I’m working a normal 40hrs. Still paying all the same bills and still no time. But I do see the same parents at all the kids activities. That’s close enough, right?
I do see the same parents at all the kids activities. That’s close enough, right?
that’s pretty much how my parents socialized, so…
Agreed. Just depressing how the moment your kid moves up to a better or different team and poof, your “social network” is gone and needs to be replaced.
yeah. the trick is, finding the parents in the groups that you are actually real friends with. not just acquaintences. having a small regular gatherings with those close friends, the ones you want to keep in touch with. it takes more work, but it is worth it.
this is advice coming from the outside so take it with a grain of salt. it’s like, hey, shit shoveler. shovel more shit. you have too much to do already.
Yeah I think we all get the concept. The issue comes down to time and resources. My “free time” starts around 1AM after all my adulting responsabilities are done. At that point a movie or a book and sleep is all I have time for. Next week is a mild week with 5 days of kids activities, 2 birthday parties, and hopefully finding time to mow the lawn.
yeah, my wife and i don’t have kids and even we are going on dates buying groceries. i don’t know how y’all get it done.
Instead of drowning, you learn to hold your breath. Doesn’t mean it is fun, just keeps you alive.
How I Met Your Mother is so interesting to me because the best parts about it stem from the fact that it’s characters are all horrible people. Yet the writer’s clearly don’t realise this very obvious fact about their own show.
Also, it wholly erased it’s own place in the culture by having an absolutely trash final season.
It’s also deeply, libidinally, transphobic. Like, holy shit it’s so bad
The best parts about the show is that people with clearly different values and personalities can still be friends. But i guess it hits differently for echo chambers.
It’s been a while since I’ve watched the show, why are Robin and Marshall horrible?
I would not have guessed I would have quit drinking in my 20s, pretty sound financial decision.
You mean you own a house? Wow man congrats!
And he has time to watch TV.
Privileged boomer right here
No war but class war. I will defend my Gen X brothers and sisters to the end.
for having the privilege to sit on your asses and do jack shit and then sitting on your asses and doing jack shit? bravo gen x. bravo. is that what you wanted?
I’m a millenial. I don’t need your approval and never asked for it.
You’re the one stuck on generational infighting.
uh, I think MTV was a generation or two after boomers?
I was born in 1973, removed. I’m no boomer.
You got a channel that actually had music in it :)
GenX is called boomer-lite these days
Yeah, in the generational war, it’s always about shifting the blame to the other generation.
Boomer is about the old looking on the young as lazy, bad with money etc. while having the whole pie in their mouth.
I spent my 20s in college and LAN parties. Try them… it’s a blast!
and here you can see the electric meter for the house.
Where’d you get that picture of me and the boys?!
Can’t try college right now, but LAN parties are legit! I hope somewhere they’re still a thing…
They were usually just friend groups who took their entire computers over to someones house.
Think sleepover but you also bring a box of electronics
They still can be!
Casual multiplayer games are really seeing a resurgence lately and I couldn’t be happier!
RV There Yet, Peak, Sledding Game, Lovers in a Dangerous Spacetime, A Gentlemen’s Dispute, are just a few!
As someone who did live like image 1 in late 20s and early 30s, it sucks so much when you have to go back to image 2.
Maybe better not to experience it at all.
Same, I’m 42 and went out every weekend with friends for a good 5-6 years from like 21-27. You could actually afford to do that back then.
It’s not too late to change your ways.
That would require friends, which is a factor beyond my control…
Not 100% under your control, but certainly not “beyond control”
I can’t control other people. Other people can choose to not be my friend, to not invite me anywhere, to not talk to me, to leave whenever I show up.
No, having friends is something beyond my control.
Having specific friends maybe, but get out there and you’re guaranteed to find someone who’s on your sine.
Oh sure, lemme just pull out all this disposable income and time I have for drinks, cab fair. Yea its definitely within budget to spend $50 round trip traveling + $50 buying rounds + $30 food + etc etc etc.
For sure I can do that 3-4 times a week to be social. That’s only like ~$500 a week. Or ya know what, maybe we just cut down to like twice a week, thats only $1k a month. Who cant afford that, right?
Ya know what, maybe we just need to cut some costs. Hmmm cab fair is expensive, let’s just drive! That’s easier anyways, let’s get drunk and drive a couple days a week because we cant afford to be responsible AND sociable…
EDIT: actually, know what, I thought up another way to save some money. Lets save some money on food. We can’t afford to be eating out all the time anyways. So yea, lets go out, drink on an empty stomach and drive home. Making some changes! Making friends! Going out and being social!
Sounds like a very car centric lifestyle. I moved to a bike friendly city and my outings cost much less. A six pack of beer from the store will last me two nights out. A night out might be biking to a friend’s place for board game night or doing a group bike ride with stops on the way. Night out costs like 5usd. Granted, that’s not the only socializing I do, but in the summer especially I bike or walk 99% of the time.
Drive to each others places and don’t drink. You don’t need alcohol to have a good time with friends. Hang out online. Meet people who live in walking distance.
None of these options is perfect; we’d rather be able to meet exactly whom we want, and do exactly what we want when together. But the topic is socialising, not socialising in exactly the way we prefer.
Most of my friends don’t live in the same city as me, so it’s not easy for me either. But by one method and another I still have social contact.
You can save money on food if you steal it and save money on alcohol if you steal it and drink somewhere you’re not allowed to be instead of a bar and have a designated driver or use a bustrain which is just lots of busses hitched together but usually only like two anyway maybe learn something from queer culture this is why the second half of being gay is doing crimes it just seems like all your socializing is investing in conspicuous consumption stuff and you can just not 9r even get together with your friends to like build stuff or whatever I promise there’s options
Just move to Europe. /s
But seriously, it’s crazy to think that people can’t afford to go out because of transportation costs. When I was in my 20 I would just walk to the city center or take a tram, drink $1 beers and go back home in a bus. Now I take $2 train. It’s so sad that Americans built their shitty system on purpose.
No you can totally still do these kinds of things in cities in the US. You just have to sacrifice other things like space, car, etc and a lot of people that grew up in suburbs aren’t willing to do that.
What’s your monthly streaming bill? (Hoping you say $0 because YAAARRRRR!)
I’m not trying to presuppose everyone’s lives or say they have to be a certain way. But we can do things to be with people that doesn’t cost money or even involve drinking. I realize that I live in a very walkable, highly mass-transit-friendly, extremely accessible city. BUT, spending time with friends, playing games, riding a bike, walking, etc., are all ways to stop streaming and make changes.
I get it. You’re trying to unseat my statement as insensitive to your plight. I meant it in good faith, though. There was a time before smart phones and limitless streaming. We hung out, we played music, we read books, we drew, we painted, we lived. We can still do it.
It’s hard. I’m trying. I try to draw every day. I spend time writing for a D&D game I DM for. I write music and try to get through the dumb darkness we’re living in. Streaming comes at the end of the night when I am going to bed.
Good luck. I wish more social life and socialism for everyone. :)
There’s places to live where you don’t have to drive. Your attitude suggests that will not happen where you live within your lifetime.
I’m not sure if you have the ability to move, but it could cut down on transportation costs for going out. It would probably save money on daily commutes as well.
Ah yes, “just move” man, I wonder why people didn’t think of that? It’s so simple!
I get what you’re saying, but it’s the equivalent of telling a depressed person “have you tried being happy?”.
As an external observer to this conversation, you’re not reading taking part in good faith. Try to understand the intention of their replies.
I did everything I could to not say “just move” while still giving it as an option.
What I was trying to say is that there are more options than owning a car. Find other means of transit. Vote for other means of transit.
If you are stuck, I am sorry.
This is why trains are awesome.
Bro ur justifying being anti social to urself. Go out once a week with a group of friends get fucked up blow a couple hundred bucks its fine.
Or have a beer or two over the course of 5 hours as you chat with people then double check you’ve sobered up and drive home. The idea that one has to get hammered to go to a bar is crazy.
Hell I used to go to nights out at a board game bar, got a veggie burger, a glass of mead or a cocktail, played for a few hours, then drove home fine, for like $60 between the wife and I. Only stopped because I moved away.
Veggie burger oof that tells me everything I need to know.
That I don’t eat meat? It was an excellent veggie burger, and my wife quite liked their meaty options.
If the characters hadn’t spent practically every night drinking until 2AM, HIMYM could have been compressed into a movie with a shitty ending instead of 9 seasons with a shitty ending.
It had few actual laughs and most episodes did feel like filler. Not the worst sitcom, but not the best.
FML I thought that was “Friends”. I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
Same. The two in the middle look like Monica and Ross on first glance (and a fuzzy thumbnail).
The first one is what my 30s looks like though and I’m happy with that
I’ll take watching TV over drinking anytime. And I hate watching TV.
More like:
Having fun satisfying relationships with friends
vs
Sitting at home alone watching TV
a bowl tho? fuck yeah
not too drunk to watch tv huh? keep at it
