knowing who posted this before even checking the username…
Lemmy stands on the shoulders of like 5 people with some uhhh interesting social media habits
yes but thats kinda why it is so compfy around here
if adora and jessica stop posting, blahaj.zone might as well close.
I’m here wondering how it spawned 90+ comments
Pretty much my current relationship. (I’m not the one “being used” though.)
Reality isn’t always as sexy though: Your moods won’t always be in sync and your libidos won’t always match. That’s just human. But those times it all matches are just magic.
And for the other times: Open communication, toys and setting and respecting clear boundaries go a long way.
Based and consent pilled
So true. I started taking SSRI (anti depressants) and have very little sex drive now. The only thing that seems to help is weed right now.
I think I would always be down to suck some gock, even if I’m not really in the mood myself. I love making the girlies happy.
I had this for a couple of years. It’s all it’s cracked up to be. Really wish she hadn’t gone crazy, shaved her head, and moved to Bali.
Classic
It really is, isn’t it?
Same, girl. Same. 😔
Same dude. Same.
Godsdammit my violet08 is leaking acid salts again. Accidentally left the batteries in her for a year again.
Same y’all. Same.
I like being a sentient dildo.
You like being sentient??
Same, small furry creatures from Alpha Centuri. Same
Just the left one. I’m taking this virginity to my grave and my impressively godlike asexuality cannot be stopped.
But romance is so good.
You: but, what if we were just like REALLY good friends? Put that away please.
Yeah, based and wholesome stuff pilled
Aw yeah now that you put it that way, I actually prefer cuddling, could live without the slimy sweaty painful pounding. We need a third option up there for just romance & spooning with clothes on please.
It’s painful?
Am woman. Men who learn sex through porn think it’s ok to fuck us like we’re a slab of meat, and their penis is a merciless steel meat tenderizer, trying to fuck us until they until they kill us but thankfully they cum before they completely murder me. Actually I’ve gotten to the point I don’t even want the company of a man anymore because all they do is take pleasure and give pain.
Wow, you have very bad luck with men, I’m so sorry.
Or is it a cultural phenomenon? Where are you from?Hey, that’s not fair! I don’t take pleasure.
The pain aspect is something you should address. First with your partner if their technique can be changed, and second with a few doctors. This one is like a layer cake - maybe you’re ace, maybe there is emotional context (that could be entirely unrelated to your current situation) that causes physical discomfort, or possibly there’s a physical component that your doctor might be able to help you with. Or some combination of all of them, because people are complex.
But romantic asexuality is definitely a thing, as is a number of variants within it.
Do people really want the whole “be used as a sex toy any time” thing? I do not understand that at all, tbh. I’m not judging y’all or whatever, it’s just a very confusing concept to me. But sex is also a very complicated thing for me because of some shit I went through in my last relationship.
Yes, not at all uncommon in the BDSM community. Neither are 24/7 kink relationships. However, reality is different from fantasy and there is a fair amount of nuance in how this works in the context of a LTR and not a fun weekend.
yeah I’ve known subs with a “I want to wake up in the middle of sex” or “I want to be drugged” fetish.
The more this thread teaches me, the more I realize that me wanting a cute girl to pull my hair isn’t so crazy.
I once watched someone get chicken feet sewn into their skin at a fetish club. I think hair pulling is fine 🙂
How do you even discover that that’s your fetish. I have so many questions
Same way you find favorite foods: give it a try.
You hardly have to be a sub to want to wake up to a cute companion grinding on you.
Yeah, some people are into that. Terms called free-use. Sometimes its just an overly desire to be available to your significant other but there are many different ways one arrives at such affirmations
Many people like a bit of subordination/domination. As most things, it’s a spectrum and there are some people tending to either edges.
The two big caveats about subordination fetishes are however that firstly, such fantasies can be a response to trauma and/or abuse and secondly, it puts you in a very vulnerable position and leaves you very open to exploitation.
It’s the “comfy wholesome” part which really holds this together and makes it great: You’re putting an immense amount of trust and responsibility on your partner if you submit yourself like that and it can only work if your partner is fully aware of this, up to the task and really cares about you.
Can be wrong, but I suppose that here people mean that they are willing to have intercourse without preparations at any time they can if, of course, nothing prevents it(illness, urgent work, emergency, etc.). No need to have each tome a romantic date or a special occasion.
“A lady in the streets but a freak in the bed”
- Ludacris
One of the truest trues that ever trued.
Its freak in the sheets… its supposed to ryme… this broke me today.
“No pain, no increase”
Hes even a rapper. WTH…
At that point he’s just trolling.
It’s one of my 8 commandments.
Most women want a Kratos in the sheets and a Mimir in the streets
OK, by now we get that you’re rampantly horny, but besides that, what’s your damage? Just the standard ADHD/autism, or borderline/dissociative or something extra spicy?
Borderline :3
🎵 I’m an object, 🎵
🎵 She’s an object, 🎵
🎵 He’s an object, 🎵
🎵 We’re all objects, 🎵
🎵 Wouldn’t you like to be an object too? 🎵
Of course it’s @violet08@lemmy.today
